Inappropriate behaviour in the work place.

Gavin83

bluelass wrote: »

You will be taken seriously my love and if anyone should be going its him not you.

If you'd like to offer suggestions on how to make the person running the company leave then go ahead. The option of her staying and him leaving simply isn't possible. She will lose her job, either through being sacked or resigning. She might be able to claim for constructive dismissal though.

I'd second going to the police. You could also speak to his wife (assuming he's married) although judging by what you've written on here its entirely possible she's used to it and won't do a thing.

I'd suggest talking to your partner as well, its something your better off sharing and if I was in his position and found out my girlfriend was keeping this from me I'd be pretty upset.

greatgimpo

Tell him you really must meet his wife sometime for a friendly chat.

maninthestreet

Gavin83 wrote: »

If you'd like to offer suggestions on how to make the person running the company leave then go ahead. The option of her staying and him leaving simply isn't possible. She will lose her job, either through being sacked or resigning. She might be able to claim for constructive dismissal though.

I'd second going to the police. You could also speak to his wife (assuming he's married) although judging by what you've written on here its entirely possible she's used to it and won't do a thing.

I'd suggest talking to your partner as well, its something your better off sharing and if I was in his position and found out my girlfriend was keeping this from me I'd be pretty upset.

If he's been arrested and charged with sexual assault, or even just given a caution (which means he will be on the sex offenders register), his position may become untenable. How many people does this company employ?

Gavin83

maninthestreet wrote: »

If he's been arrested and charged with sexual assault, or even just given a caution (which means he will be on the sex offenders register), his position may become untenable. How many people does this company employ?

Being on the sex offenders register (or committing any crime for that matter) does not prevent you from running a business or employing people. Of course when a business employs you they can discriminate against a criminal record but if he owns the business this isn't an issue is it?

I am of course assuming he owns the business here based on what the OP has said, we probably do need the OP to clear this up.

aileth

This is sexual assault. Just because it's your boss and it's happening in your workplace doesn't mean it's any less of a sexual assault.

You say it's not just to you. Have you spoken to other victims? I'd be going to the Police as a group, and I would start now applying to other companies.

If he has these sorts of opinions now, or considers this behaviour acceptable, then nothing will stop him continuing, or simply sacking you if he's reprimanded.

wiogs

bluelass wrote: »

Let me start my reply by saying you must not resign and look for another job. You my darling are the victim of a monsterous pervert bully and you have done nothing wrong and did not bring this on yourself. People like his man make my blood boil I wish I worked there I would out him for sure. Please don't resign or remain there suffering in silence please don't. What you describe on here is sexual abuse not just harassment (and that's bad alone) I would like you to consider telephoning your local police HQ and make a appointment to speak to a officer you can go to the station they don't have to come to your house if you don't want them to. This man is a monster and I wouldn't be surprised if he has form for assault of a certain nature. You will be taken seriously my love and if anyone should be going its him not you. You must speak to someone about this a friend or family member too. I dread to think how you must be feeling and im concerned for you and wish you well in getting this sorted out post haste if not sooner. Take care hun.

What wild idle speculation.

And a wonderfully patronising tone to your reply to boot.

asajj

aileth wrote: »

This is sexual assault. Just because it's your boss and it's happening in your workplace doesn't mean it's any less of a sexual assault.

You say it's not just to you. Have you spoken to other victims? I'd be going to the Police as a group, and I would start now applying to other companies.

If he has these sorts of opinions now, or considers this behaviour acceptable, then nothing will stop him continuing, or simply sacking you if he's reprimanded.

I second this.

I appreciate that you don't want to lose your job but as said give a bit more information on the company structure please ?

What will you do if he goes further? Needs to stop now and I feel bad to see people are left to suffer in silence.

c0nfus3d

Thank you for all your replies.

He doesn't own the company but is crucial to its success, before he arrived it was apparently failing miserably. I have been told they will do everything to keep him (those up on high who I've never really met)

I feel indebted to him for various reasons and when he isn't doing this he's okay to work for, which sounds odd I know but I know if he wasn't my boss I wouldn't have my job. I'm good at my job and has nothing to do with my ability to work its just the company are trying to get rid of roles like mine.

His wife knows what he's like. The others who have experienced similar do not wish to report I have tried speaking with them but I think I'm the only one really bothered by it. The joke about it.

I can't go to the police, its just not an option. Please don't think I'm trying to be difficult you advice has opened my eyes. I thought I was being a drama queen but realise this behaviour is unacceptable. I am going to ask for a meeting and discuss how much I don't like this behaviour and if it doesn't end I will have no option to report him.

I think he's a chancer and a womaniser who will get away with whatever he thinks he can. I need to be firm, I don't do well with confrontation which is probably why he thinks he can get away with it.

I think its upsetting me that I cannot tell oh, I don't keep secrets from him and if I'm worried about anything he's my sounding board.

I guess I sound weak

wiogs

If you don't wish to report him, to those above him to start with, then you will have to confront him, suffer it or leave.

Choice is yours.

Gavin83

I'm not really sure what your expecting as a solution here. You really have the following options:

1) Put up with it. This clearly isn't really an option.

2) Leave. You seem to suggest this isn't an option either.

3) Tell him his behaviour is making you uncomfortable and hope he stops. This might be the best option. Best case scenario he stops and you can get on with your job. Worst scenario, you get the sack.

4) Report him to the owners. From what you've said it seems they'll be unlikely to get rid of him. Best case scenario they ask him to stop and he does. Worst case scenario they decide to sack you as they consider you 'trouble' and frankly no where near as valuable as the boss.

Were I in your position with what you've said on here I'd probably go with option 3 while looking around for another job, just in case. Of course the fair option would be that he'd get the sack and you could work trouble free. However life isn't fair and this is unlikely to happen.