Selling home when child reaches 18 after divorce

kingfisherblue

sulphate wrote: »

Where is your child going to live?

As this was agreed several years ago, the mother has had ample opportunity to think about future housing for herself and the son. She has had the use of the marital home and will presumably benefit from a proportion of the sale.


Incidentally, I am female and in the marital home after divorce (although my circumstances are different).

Gigglepig

stanley2012 wrote: »

Because she hates me. The child is unemployed and on benefits so no it won't affect his schooling.

Fair enough. Makes it harder to negotiate with her but on the plus side if it does go to court it is good she won't have any good arguments to stall such as the child's education or health.

dancingfairy

It depends on how good your relationship is. Are you able to speak to her in sensible way/have a sensible conversation?
I'm thinking of having a friendly chat along the lines of " I know you have to sell the house" and just wondered if you'd had any valuations done/started looking at rentals/need some help with a deposit etc etc.
On the other hand if the relationship isn't great and you aren't going to be able to have a civil conversation/get a sensible reply then it will all have to go through the solicitors and get a forced sale.
I don't know but given how easy it is to string rental repossessions out for months, I imagine that she could easily plead for extra time to fine somewhere else/ because it's detrimental to your son/ that an offer has fallen through/ sabotage the sale in some way by putting off viewings/"forget" about viewings etc etc.
Sadly I suspect you are in a for a long haul if she doesn't want to play ball, unless you can sell the benefits of her getting her share quicker/cutting ties with you quicker/lesser costs to her somehow if you can get it sorted etc.
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Jagraf

stanley2012 wrote: »

If you have nothing constructive to say please don't post.

To be fair your opening post was provocative and hardly neutral.

Congratulations on rearing your son successfully. Maybe now he will come to live with you. Can you not get him back into education?

DUTR

stanley2012 wrote: »

Can anyone advise the process involved with selling the marital home when my child reaches 18 this year? This was the divorce agreement but I am unsure how long my ex wife can make it string out without actually being made to sell? Is there a cut off point when a court can say you have dragged your heels too long and it can go to auction? Any help you can offer would be much appreciated thank you

You will more than likely have to seek legal direction.
If you have met your minimum legal requirment, you no longer have to feel guilty about anything.

January20

This board is getting absolutely unbearable with the number of posters who post ridiculous posts, without thinking beyond: men are always barstewards and women are always angels who could do no wrong! Seriously people!

The "child" is 18 so legally an adult and not the legal responsibility of either of his parents.

The ex wife hates the OP so it could be that she did all she can to ruin the relationship between the father and child or it could be the OP has a great relationship with his child.

He could be he had a lot of input in his child's life or none at all.

The OP could have been paying maintenance as well as being in a difficult financial state since the divorce. Selling the house to release some equity could be a necessity.

Selling the property would have been agreed years ago possibly. It won't have come out of the blue for the ex-wife. She should have thought about it unless of course she was intent on causing the OP misery.

Frankly, there is far too much we don't know to justify the harsh responses the OP has received! I didn't find his opening post harsh or provocative but rather that of a person at the end of their tether. How can it be a neutral post when it is a real event in the OP's life?

ETA: I am a divorced woman who didn't think of bleeding my ex-husband dry because I have self respect
and a sense of independence.

Gigglepig

DUTR wrote: »

You will more than likely have to seek legal direction.
If you have met your minimum legal requirment, you no longer have to feel guilty about anything.

legal obligation does not equal moral obligation. I don't know the OP and I'm Not saying OP is a bad parent. but being a good parent is more than not falling short of the legal requirement.

Homeownertobe

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Well, that's ok, then. He'll just sleep in a hedge and everything will be fine.

He could always get a job? Why should the OP have to give up what he's paid for to keep this lazy pair?

Jagraf

January20 wrote: »

This board is getting absolutely unbearable with the number of posters who post ridiculous posts, without thinking beyond: men are always barstewards and women are always angels who could do no wrong! Seriously people!

The "child" is 18 so legally an adult and not the legal responsibility of either of his parents.

The ex wife hates the OP so it could be that she did all she can to ruin the relationship between the father and child or it could be the OP has a great relationship with his child.

He could be he had a lot of input in his child's life or none at all.

The OP could have been paying maintenance as well as being in a difficult financial state since the divorce. Selling the house to release some equity could be a necessity.

Selling the property would have been agreed years ago possibly. It won't have come out of the blue for the ex-wife. She should have thought about it unless of course she was intent on causing the OP misery.

Frankly, there is far too much we don't know to justify the harsh responses the OP has received! I didn't find his opening post harsh or provocative but rather that of a person at the end of their tether. How can it be a neutral post when it is a real event in the OP's life?

ETA: I am a divorced woman who didn't think of bleeding my ex-husband dry because I have self respect
and a sense of independence.

"String it out" "drag her heels" etc

To be honest we don't know the situation at all either way, the question could just have been " how long could it take to sell the house".

Congratulations on your self respect and independence. Although it is about the children in the end and not about the mother or fathers ego or loss of pride.

Jacko_amz

Totally agree with january20, my partner is in the same predicament but his son is only 5 so it's a long way off until the house can be sold. But I agree it's harsh that because the man wants to sell and move on it automatically is the assumption he's being an a*se and kicking the family out and that he should just bow down and not rock the boat! Very frustrating the opinions that fathers get these days, it's always the mum is an angel.