advice on contact please

Jagraf

My DD is virtually grown up now so we are through it, but I will give you my perspective.

I am mum and DD lives with me. I would have loved my DD to have an interested stepmom - she always seemed to be doing her own thing. I know now its very difficult for step mums as they don't know what to get involved with, as it seems sometimes you can't win as a stepmom.

But maybe if you show that you are in it for keeps the mum will warm to the situation and then it becomes easier for dad.

It's all very complicated I know. But if you show a united front, in a nice way, it works better.

Good luck

Jacko_amz

I agree jagraf, I do feel like I can never get involved as its none of my business, but there's no harm in trying is there x

elsien

Jacko_amz wrote: »

we may try after school, i know that was tried in the past and failed as ex would dictate what had to be done after school and in 4hrs it soon goes.

What on earth does a 5 year old need to do after school other than play and eat? When the little un is at your son's it's not up the ex to dictate how your son does things, although I can see why he'd want to go along with it so contact isn't stopped again. A fine line to tread between drawing his own boundaries and keeping a degree of consistency to help with routine, although kids soon learn that things can work differently in different places and that's ok.

Jacko_amz

Totally agree elsien x

Jagraf

Do you have any friends who have children the same age?

Jacko_amz

My sister has a little one and I often look after her when he's round x

Marvs_Mayhem

I'd seriously look into seeing whether you can switch your shifts to more weekend friendly hours. If his partner still kicks off after this - take to court