Help as an attorney, please

Mav6215

Halifax has been the only bank that has been helpful so far in getting a card account with signature-only.

Something else that I've not found an answer for:

I am entitled to claim back costs in relation to dealing with my mother's affairs including petrol when taking her out and running errands for her but I cannot find anything definitive regarding how much I can claim per mile. Has anyone got an answer to this or point me in the right direction, please?

RAS

Hi

Now that you have the Social Services agreement that mum is not able to manage her own affairs have you taken advice on getting brother removed from the house and moving back in yourselves?

Mav6215

Thanks for the reply.

In my OP I did allude to other issues regarding the care my mother receives which I divulged to SS. These included the fact my SiL is an alcoholic and has often been found drunk in charge by myself, my wife, my daughter and my ex-wife. SiL has also told me and others on many occasions that she can't cope and has threatened to commit suicide. She has also told me and one other person that she has occasionally considered killing my mother which I found shocking. If it had been said to just one person I would have put it down to dramatic effect. SS had a meeting with B&SiL who both denied the allegations and that seems to be the end of it as there is no evidence to confirm what has been happening even though all the above-mentioned people are all willing to sign affidavits and testify in court if necessary. Even my brother's daughter has raised concerns about how my mother is cared for!

SS arranged for a care assessment to be made and that I would be contacted to arrange this. It was arranged direct with SiL who, at the meeting, said everything is fine and so their case was closed. I only found out about this when the social worker rang this morning to cancel our meeting later in the day. I have tried to discuss things with my brother but he simply swears at me, tells me to F off and then hangs up.

What makes it worse is that the last three meetings with the social worker allocated to the case have been cancelled due to more pressing and important matters. I am not happy at all.

Primrose

I wonder if you have considered contacting the police, asking to speak to a senior officer and raising an issue of elder abuse, especially in view of the threats to your mother's safety. Tell them you are not prepared to be brushed aside on the basis it is some other agency's problem and send them a formal letter afterwards as a file note listing the names and titles of those you have dealt with . They may take things more seriously if they think written records are being kept of the way your complaint is being handled. I would do the same for all meetings with Social Services and other agencies too.