On line Dating

Rebel_Cause

I met mine online when I was not looking. I met him on a social networking site when it was good and not as narcissistic as it is now! LOL That was 6 years ago this year!

DUTR

meg72 wrote: »

Anyone had experience of this and willing share, give advice? did you meet your partner this way, did you have a bad experience, advice on how to safely meet a stranger for the first time would be very much appreciated.

There will be lots of readers with experiences to share, there are maniacs of both genders however thankfully they are few and far bewteen.
As for meeting, trust your instincts and meet at a public place and only when you feel comfortable (as they will too) .
Tell someone where you are going and text call if your plans time schedule change.

Actual success will vary from person to person depending on age , educational background, location and other factors.

Remember the sites are for you to look as well as guys to look for you, you maybe ideal to them or vice versa but the other party does not share the same enthusiasm.
Good luck.

KxMx

I didn't get anywhere with it.

I looked into disabled dating websites (because I have little to offer any man on a "normal" dating website) and discovered a couple of things:

Despite different names they are pretty much all owned by the same companies. Consequently pretty much the same group of people on them. And very few are 100% free after the first month, in fact too expensive for me to keep on. If it was 100% free virtually all you could do was browse without paying.

SailorSam

KxMx wrote: »

I didn't get anywhere with it.
(because I have little to offer any man on a "normal" dating website) .

I'm sure that's not true.
Fingers crossed that early in 2015 the man of your dreams will set set your heart a flutter.
If every day i thought of you a star was to fall, the sky would be empty.

meg72

KxMx wrote: »

I didn't get anywhere with it.

I looked into disabled dating websites (because I have little to offer any man on a "normal" dating website) and discovered a couple of things:

Despite different names they are pretty much all owned by the same companies. Consequently pretty much the same group of people on them. And very few are 100% free after the first month, in fact too expensive for me to keep on. If it was 100% free virtually all you could do was browse without paying.

Bless you hun I am sure that's not true, why do you think that?

happiness.v4

Follow your gut instinct. Don't meet someone until you are happy you know enough about them. Meet in a public place. Text a friend where you are going if you are concerned about them. (Or write the details of the person down and leave it in a visible place...so if you do end up chopped up in bits at least the Police have a lead! )

It can work. I have just discovered meet up dot com which is going to be my new way of meeting real people. I have given online dating/POF/Tinder/Match/MySingleFriend a jolly good go...but this time I am giving myself some time off online dating to focus on real people without the focus to find " the one "....

I wish you lots of luck. It can work. It does work. Stick with it.

[Deleted User]

Unfortunately I'm afraid there must be something wrong with me. I had nothing but bad experiences chatting online. I tried various ways and all I seemed to chat to or meet up with were people who were single for very good reasons.

I also found it difficult to find men who were willing to chat online for a week or too, til I felt comfortable, then I'd be happy giving my phone number out. Most wanted to say Hi, give me your number second message and felt I was unwilling to meet up at all if I didn't oblige.

I did meet up with about four men over the years (I did have a long term relationship in between). One turned out to be a drunk and have a list of illnesses as long as your arm (none of this mentioned until we met up, then it was nothing but lol). He also spent the entire meet up time staring at my chest and trying to persuade me to take him home for 'coffee' lol. This 'date' does make me laugh however. I met another man who had lost his licence twice due to drink driving (again not mentioned previously), another who was a player, a man who was looking for someone he could buy a house with, nothing else accepted (I'm a carer) and a last one who was looking for a woman who had private conversations with God (as he did).., somehow he forgot to mention that until we met up. I do laugh about it.., but oh dear!

I forgot, there was one man I put my 'chat for a while' rule aside, met up with him, and he turned out to be a leetle bit odd (again). He was ex forces, had a bad marriage, thought it was perfectly ok to chuck buckets of cold water over his teen son if he swore and after one date, when my life was a bit difficult, suggested a 'companion' arrangement cause he thought he could do me some good!!!!! I know you won't believe me, but this really did happen! Needless to say, my reply to him was very direct lol.

So I decided I just seemed to have really bad ability to choose and there seem to be far more yukky men around than nice men, so I prefer to be single now.

And to be honest, as a lone parent and carer with no money, I don't actually feel I have much to offer, so that's probably part of the problem.

However, I have two dogs and no cats ha ha!

onomatopoeia99

deannatrois wrote: »

I did meet up with about four men over the years (I did have a long term relationship in between). One turned out to be a drunk and have a list of illnesses as long as your arm (none of this mentioned until we met up, then it was nothing but lol). He also spent the entire meet up time staring at my chest and trying to persuade me to take him home for 'coffee' lol. This 'date' does make me laugh however. I met another man who had lost his licence twice due to drink driving (again not mentioned previously), another who was a player, a man who was looking for someone he could buy a house with, nothing else accepted (I'm a carer) and a last one who was looking for a woman who had private conversations with God (as he did).., somehow he forgot to mention that until we met up. I do laugh about it.., but oh dear!

Gosh! There was me worrying that I'd be too nerdy and shy for most women if I tried it, but being single, no children, no addictions (except perhaps tea), no religion, no criminal record ... after reading your experiences :eek: maybe I'd be OK!

[Deleted User]

Ha ha, sure you are right. I can't understand why there were so many iffy men on there. You'd think statistics would prove otherwise even if I am terrible at choosing men.., this was all initial 'dates' or chats that went no where, so there wasn't much choice involved at that point lolol.

I did try one of the pay sites.., and the ok guys disappeared.., then I read how these sites get members of staff to chat with clients, and it made sense. One extremely nice guy suddenly had his brother get very ill, had to go stay with him, and cut off all contact. Before that we were getting on well. Oh well lol. I didn't use that site much after that. It seemed to happen a lot.

I found dating sites had a real downward effect on my self esteem. Are you doing something to make these things happen, are your chatting skills awful? etc etc.