Moving out at 16

margaretclare

I agree with nannytone in post #8 above. Age 16 is a very difficult age, and some of us can even remember back that far. You think you can do anything, nothing is impossible. 'Those were the days, my friend, we thought they'd never end...' Alas, you learn. Better if that learning process goes on with support. It's a scary world out there with many dangers and pitfalls. As a parent you want to protect them but they can't see what can happen!

GlasweJen

nannytone wrote: »

even if your daughter moves out, there is nothing to stop your wife being her appointee.... especially if you don't think your daughter will be able to manage her financial affairs.
sometimes you have to let your kids fall flat on their face for them to realise what life is about.

I wasn't judging the OP I was responding to this. do not go with the above action. Financial abuse of a disabled person is against the law and like I said would totally turn your daughter away from you anyway.

Do you think a bit of respite would help?

nannytone_2

i don't know where you're coming up with 'financial abuse' from.
if the girl isn't capable of managing her own money, it isn't abusive, but responsible to ensure her bills/rent get paid, rather than just leaving the girl to dig herself into a deep financial pit

GlasweJen

You can't just decide to keep being someone's appointee, even learning disabled people are entitled to make choices. If the daughter wants to move out she is entitled to decide who handles her money - she might even be able to handle her own money with a degree of support. You can't just tell her she's free to leave and keep getting her DLA and "put it away" or "pay her bills" for her unless that's what she wants.

Again the OP should get social work involved. His daughter needs an advocate and someone who specialises in supported living. In Lanarkshire (where my aunt who lacks capacity lives) the council use a company called key housing. Even though my aunt has less capacity to make an informed decision than her 4 year old great niece, she still got a say in the sale of her house, the decisions around where to place her and how her income is spent.