Pre nups

tea_lover

I don't think you need worry OP, I can't imagine they're queuing up to marry you.

AngelOfTheNorth

SanguineSteve wrote: »

Now that co-habiting couples are subject to almost the same 'rights' as married ones...

They're not at all, or not in the UK at least. Please don't help perpetrate this myth, it does a lot of damage.

As for the OP, well he sounds like quite the catch. But on the subject of prenups generally, the situation in UK law is that they are very, very far from watertight. I suspect we're moving towards greater enforcement, but at the moment it's sort of like the bullet proof vest analogy. If you need a bullet proof vest, you need more than a bullet proof vest. I will say, also, that if you want your wife to be a SAHP, this means you're much more likely to have to pay up should you get divorced. You may well find a better insurance policy is for both to keep working.

Pollycat

[simon] wrote: »

Someone mentioned that when you marry you should be prepared to share everything. Lets be fair here, if my partner was moving in to my bought house, shes moving in to a better estate / community than she lived in previously, plus she getting a roof over her head and no monthly rent / mortgage to pay !! Now thats sharing. If for any reason the relationship breaks up, why should take whats rightly mine ??? Goals and ambishan are personal. i bought my own place as a goal for me, women also have the right to buy their own house too, if she has not done that, and chosen to live in a council estate or a rented property that is her own destiny. Why have rights to take whats mine ?? Just her moving in to a better estate and community is brining her up in the world, lets be honest.

Someone mentioned about a women doing all the chores in the home and looking after kids, so what ?? If shes not got a job consider that as working, most women do set their job titles on Facebook as house wife / full time mummy. If she is working, then again i don't see anything wrong with her doing house work and looking after kids, shes not got any rent or mortgage to pay, so shes actually financially better off than living alone. Nothing wrong with a women putting some money as side or saving up just in case the relationship breaks down, she can have a deposit ready to go back in to renting a property again.

Another thing is, and its right to bring this up here, usually break down of marriage is caused by lack of love making, caused by the women, fact. Lots of older men complain about this. Women also put on timber when they are comfortable which can alter a mans emotions , feelings towards her, even though she might have a great personality. However thanks to the run for life events, which women take very seriously, as well as been a great charity it also keeps a lot of women in shape which is great.

When you marry a women for better or for worse, its like when someone you may have care for becomes ill and the doctors tell you how hard its going to be to care for this person, people still go ahead with it, however when it comes to doing it, it starts to take it out on you and some people get very ill them selfs and realise thats sometimes its too difficult to do it all alone. Same as a marriage, you say you will stay with your partner even through the worse times, but when them worse times come you eventually look for a way out because it gets too hard. Its the same with anything. Sleeping with someone else is kind of like getting someone to help you to forget about the hard times, to give you enjoyment. Hence i beleive there is nothing wrong with changing your mined about a marriage, nothing wrong with doing what you feel is right at the time. Sometimes you feel in love and happy , other times you feel you need change. No one know what they will feel tomorrow or the next or next year.

Love is a feeling and feelings change. Property, assets and investments are what makes you who you are. Its silly to put all the things that makes you you on the line for which half of it can be demolished at anytime. Why build a tower where there is know to be a strong wind ??

Eventually your foundations will come loose and the tower will begin to fall down

Pre nups ... Yes !!!

WOW, Simon!

You've moved fast (literally).

Back in late September 2014 you were still living at home but are now talking (or maybe fantasising) about protecting your 'bought house' from your partner who may be moving in.

How's the fostering going, btw?

After wading through your last post, I wonder why haven't you stuck to this:?

[simon] wrote: »

I keep my posts short and to the point.

A number of people on one of your earlier threads suggested your were a troll.
I don't think I'd be inclined to disagree with them.

McCloud1

I'm thinking the OP has issues with women and is just using this as a platform to express them. He's somehow made a contract, that is not specific or limited to any gender, about women free-loading.

bluelass

Caroline_a wrote: »

Personally I've always preferred men who can spell... and I've never worn a skit... He sounds like a real catch doesn't he!

A blob fish would be a much better catch than him.

[simon]

@pollycat i dont own my own house, im asking for opinions on pre nups....and mentioning examples...

I did ask about fostering yes, that is all....

I keep my posts short and to the point...like ive always said, no one can predict the future...

I like to get all kinds of discussions going and hear peoples opinions.

Frankly i dont care what anyone thinks about me. Also how do you define a troll ? I thought a troll was someone who played pranks on line...

Am not tricking anyone or anything... Im starting debates and dicussions. End of day everyone on here must be a teoll to you then because how do you know anyone is telling the truth in any section of the forum ??

You also keep drifting my topic, the topic is about pre nups. Not my past threads, so can you stop quoting my posts from last year please in order to grab attention for your self. And unwanted attention from me. You have also turned my thread in to an opinion of me personally which i am very upset about. i will have to report you unfortunatley. And i really dont want to go down that route.

Thank you.

bluelass

All I can say is I thought my so called father was a tight assed dyed in the wool chauvinist and woman hater. But this simon takes the gold medal too, if he really feels this way about relationships then I really think he should never have children they would have a dreadful existence with a father like that.

Poppie68

Don't you just love it!
A guy who freeloaded off a pal for 2 years, moves back with his parents, works part time and thinks he's a catch....

74jax

I (we) have a prenup - I have posted before on many threads why we have one, if you're interested you could look them up and see our reasons, basically it was because OH wanted one and I wasn't bothered. As the 'not bothered' party i just signed.

They are not fully enforaceable here in the Uk but several courts have held them up if the marriage has failed within the first 5 years.

Pollycat

[simon] wrote: »

@pollycat i dont own my own house, im asking for opinions on pre nups....and mentioning examples...

I did ask about fostering yes, that is all....

I keep my posts short and to the point...like ive always said, no one can predict the future...

I like to get all kinds of discussions going and hear peoples opinions.

Frankly i dont care what anyone thinks about me. Also how do you define a troll ? I thought a troll was someone who played pranks on line...

Am not tricking anyone or anything... Im starting debates and dicussions. End of day everyone on here must be a teoll to you then because how do you know anyone is telling the truth in any section of the forum ??

You also keep drifting my topic, the topic is about pre nups. Not my past threads, so can you stop quoting my posts from last year please in order to grab attention for your self. And unwanted attention from me. You have also turned my thread in to an opinion of me personally which i am very upset about. i will have to report you unfortunatley. And i really dont want to go down that route.

Thank you.

This was your very first reply on your thread:

Pollycat wrote: »

Read this link:

http://www.prenups.uk.com/site/summary-of-the-current-law

Pre-nups are not strictly enforceable or legally binding in the UK (England and Wales). Unlike a commercial contract you cannot sue on a pre-nup and there is always the possibility that if the marriage breaks down the court will not uphold the terms of the pre-nup. Pre-nups, post-nups and pre-civil registration agreements (they all work in the same way) cannot exclude the jurisdiction of the court to deal with financial issues on marriage breakdown, or the breakdown of a civil partnership.

And

AngelOfTheNorth wrote: »

But on the subject of prenups generally, the situation in UK law is that they are very, very far from watertight. I suspect we're moving towards greater enforcement, but at the moment it's sort of like the bullet proof vest analogy. If you need a bullet proof vest, you need more than a bullet proof vest. I will say, also, that if you want your wife to be a SAHP, this means you're much more likely to have to pay up should you get divorced. You may well find a better insurance policy is for both to keep working.

So does it really matter what other posters think of pre-nups?

It's the law that you need to worry about.

I would suggest - to avoid confusion - that in future posts you state quite clearly that you are asking for advice on a hypothetical situation.

You may think you are starting debates & discussions but I would hazard a guess that posters won't be so keen to offer opinions and advice if they realise that they are not responding to actual situations.