Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 12

Cuilean

Big hugs, MRN, that's an epic trail of bad luck. The sort of thing you'd expect to see on an episode of a sitcom where they're focused on someone who just has one rotten thing after another happen to them. Unfortunately, no canned laughter or studio audience.

A baby shower for someone you'd only met twice is pretty impressive. You're a good friend! Sounds like everyone was impressed, too. Have you considered professional party planning as a sideline?

As for the woman who was disgruntled because the scan showed a different gender, I'm entirely with you on that. Right now, I'd be so grateful for a baby, whatever gender. So what if they got it wrong - I'm pretty sure they tell you it's not a 100% guarantee. Worst case scenario, you need to repaint the nursery and take a few pink sleep suits back. At least you've still got a baby.

5 days to go until SIL's baby is due. I'm very excited to meet him/her (They've not found out what they're having), but it is a bit of a reminder that DH and I are going to be the only one of our collective siblings without kids. Also within the family, my sister (Who I'm not at all close to) chose me to confide in - they're planning on uprooting their kids to the other end of the country to live the "Good Life" lifestyle in the countryside. This is going to devastate my family, because her kids are the only ones we have. So, no pressure for this cycle then :laugh:

MancMama4

MRN Ireally felt your frustration reading this post - it's clear you are a lovely person by the way you have handled all of this without actually going stark raving mad - hats off to you for that, and for organising that baby shower.

Sending you lots of luck for this cycle I really hope it's your turn to get that BFP!

Mortgage_Reduction_Novice wrote: »

Hi Ladies,

Sorry for the silence from my corner. I've been feeling really insular the last few weeks due to a number of events:

There have been two pregnancy announcements at work and two women go on maternity leave. One of the maternity leave girls was harping on that she wanted to have a baby before she was 30 (jump two paragraphs for why this was particularly annoying) and she'd done her goal. An announcer found out she was having a boy after the first gender scan told her it was a girl so I had to endure 45 minutes of her saying how she really didn't want a boy, there's no cute boy's clothes and she wouldn't find it as easy to communicate with a boy when he's older. Ungrateful cow. Why don't these people think before they speak?

Close friends of my OH announced a pregnancy too (you know, the kind of people who have to see you to tell you their news, they make a very big deal about their news so we saw this one coming when he called to arrange to meet up with us, they never initiate meeting up unless they have news about engagement/house buying/baby).

Then there was my birthday... so please update me to the ripe age of 32 on the listings. I had a dose of the birthday blues this year. Not sure that I'm completely over it to be honest.

Oh and did I mention that I organized a baby shower for a lady who I'd only met twice?! It seems I have an inability to say no. Despite my nasty thoughts that only people on this thread deserve to get pregnant and no one else in my life, I can still be a pretty nice person that does nice things for others.

And last weekend we went to a christening, the mother dropped out of college because she fell pregnant. We were invited by the grandparents as they are good friends of ours.

So it's just feels like everyone else's happy baby news is being well and truly rubbed in my face at the moment. :cry: To add insult to injury, this month was our 12th month of trying. I guess this means I should migrate to the 12m+ thread. Does anyone even know how to sit in a doctor's surgery and begin to explain that you've failed miserably to get pregnant? I can't bring myself to call for an appointment as they always as if it's urgent, I guess compared to other ailments... it's not.

Do you even want to hear my other TTC updates? Hmmm well here they are anyway. CD16 (of 31), 2 DPO. Weekend only dtd (due to hubby's job). I started OPKing on CD14 as usually LH surge is CD16-18. CD14 was positive and CD15/16 negative. CD14 was Sunday so we double dtd. Creamy CM came in pretty fast, usually 2-3 days after positive OPK but this time the next day.

MancMama4

Absolutely, boy or girl, I wouldn't care!!! I try and tell myself that these people really don't realise what they are saying and aren't thinking about how other people TTC might feel... sometimes though I'm more cynical and think they're rubbing it in on purpose!

Cuilean wrote: »

Big hugs, MRN, that's an epic trail of bad luck. The sort of thing you'd expect to see on an episode of a sitcom where they're focused on someone who just has one rotten thing after another happen to them. Unfortunately, no canned laughter or studio audience.

A baby shower for someone you'd only met twice is pretty impressive. You're a good friend! Sounds like everyone was impressed, too. Have you considered professional party planning as a sideline?

As for the woman who was disgruntled because the scan showed a different gender, I'm entirely with you on that. Right now, I'd be so grateful for a baby, whatever gender. So what if they got it wrong - I'm pretty sure they tell you it's not a 100% guarantee. Worst case scenario, you need to repaint the nursery and take a few pink sleep suits back. At least you've still got a baby.

5 days to go until SIL's baby is due. I'm very excited to meet him/her (They've not found out what they're having), but it is a bit of a reminder that DH and I are going to be the only one of our collective siblings without kids. Also within the family, my sister (Who I'm not at all close to) chose me to confide in - they're planning on uprooting their kids to the other end of the country to live the "Good Life" lifestyle in the countryside. This is going to devastate my family, because her kids are the only ones we have. So, no pressure for this cycle then :laugh:

MancMama4

CD24 7DPO for me today, NEED to POAS but trying to stay away if I can, I really can't face it this week if it's bfn and I've had lots of PMT symptoms this week so not hopeful (but hopeful really.....)

rockm87

Morning!
Just checking in.

5DPO. wont go TMI about CM...(too much lingo?)

Feeling cranky, but have been waking at 3am. Dont know if its me or my B-word cats! but it hasnt helped, just feel aaaannngry!

no other symptoms though, my ovia app told me to take an ovulation test (negative) due to my cm...but I'm not sure what is going on.

MancMama4

Haha, I was awake at 3am this morning too, and it was definitely my cats!! Had some other little symptoms that have got me thinking, not had any BM for 2 days (change of diet with Slimming World?!), had a couple of headaches (again, sugar withdrawal? I don't get many normally though), face broke out then cleared up in a day (weird for me), hot flushes, general irritation with everyone and everything... sounds like AF symptoms though really!

rockm87 wrote: »

Morning!
Just checking in.

5DPO. wont go TMI about CM...(too much lingo?)

Feeling cranky, but have been waking at 3am. Dont know if its me or my B-word cats! but it hasnt helped, just feel aaaannngry!

no other symptoms though, my ovia app told me to take an ovulation test (negative) due to my cm...but I'm not sure what is going on.

jtr2803

Hi ladies, will catch up properly later this evening once I've relaxed but unfortunately AF arrived today at 11dpo.

Grateful it was longer luteal phase than last month but still not long enough really. Have ordered myself some vitamin b complex tablets as heard they help.

Hugs to anyone who needs them x

MancMama4

Sorry to hear that Jtr, look after yourself x

Mortgage_Reduction_Novice

Oh ladies you cheer me up no end.

Today I finally got on an made a dentist and a hairdressers appointment - both of which I've been putting off for weeks. So I made a pact with myself... if AF arrives (ap predicts 5th Aug) then I'll call to make a doctors appointment despite the pushy receptionists. my doctors surgery is pretty horrific but I guess it's gotta be done. Hubby is at a different doctors due to work but he's said he'll go if I do.

Hey Jtr, I really admire you for looking to the positives and thinking of practical things you can do.

Rockm87... if your CM is anything like mine... there's a glob of creamy nearly gel-like stuff every time I visit the toilet. Such fun! I always get this, just seems slightly more today than usual.

Hold out MancMama... Wait till AF is late. My rule has always been one week late according to my Ap and I'll test. I've only tested once and AF arrived a couple of hours later. This way avoids the disappointment of negative tests when it's really too early to know anyway.

Hugs to all.

cats2012

Morning all. So AF is here. 5 days late, but at least I now know. So looks like I probably ov'd later than I'd expected, 36 day cycle, - still had DTD day before but not at the level I would have liked (we'd managed 6 days out of 8 around the expected date).

So but thrown by these longer than expected cycles, have had 16 days more than expected across 3 months which is obviously meaning trying time is less than I had hoped in that time! So so annoyed at naive me who assumed we'd be fine within 3 months like all my friends - who of course all keep asking whether we're planning to get pregnant.

OH is pretty certain my stress is not helping and I agree. Work and home life have both been crazy, plus this. So am going to try a different approach this month - OPKs yes, but also just try to go back to DTD being fun not a chore, and also I think probably checking in on here a bit less - no offence at all, I just need to think a bit less.

Also struggling emotionally because I really didn't want a proper July / Aug summer baby (personal choice - family experience with school difficulties) but again that now seems hugely naive and would basically mean taking a break after 2 more cycles max, then start trying again in Dec. Which given its obvs not easy seems stupid.

Anyway sorry for the 6 am rant - I woke up at 5.30 just thinking, so you can see why my stress is probably part of the problem.

Love and baby dust to all, thanks for being such amazing agony aunts xx