Neighbour's House

maninthestreet

Don't approach her, but keep a sharp eye out for any ambulances and/or hearses that are parked near her property....

lincroft1710

maninthestreet wrote: »

Don't approach her, but keep a sharp eye out for any ambulances and/or hearses that are parked near her property....

I've heard of "ambulance chasers" but never "ambulance spotters"!

st999

How do you know her children are not waiting on her popping her clogs before they move in?

I know my daughter, who is living in a council house in an undesirable area will move into my house the minute me and my wife are gone.

The only thing stopping her moving in just now is that we hate her partners guts.

moneyistooshorttomention

The thing is that we can all speculate endlessly as to what the neighbour would think/how they would feel, but there are endless possible variations on that and the only way OP is going to know for sure which one she is going for is to ask.

I still see no harm in a gentle comment from OP's wife saying how much she loves the house and "should you be interested in selling ever".

FWIW my own personal reaction to that, if I were in neighbours position, would be to take it as a compliment to the house I had chosen/way I had got it done and then say what my decision was either way, either "I might be interested - depending on how much you offer of course" or a gentle laugh and comment of "Sorry dear, they'll be carrying me out of this one feet first and obviously you can buy it then if you like". Some of us take a very pragmatic view, after all, as to how many years we expect to have left to us (I'm certainly already doing so and I'm in my 60s, so if I was in my 90s I'd be well aware I would be leaving my house soon anyway and not be insulted at someone else recognising that fact - provided they didn't pressurise me).

I don't know how many people are firmly attached to the particular house they have and "love it", but probably most of us would sell if we were offered enough to make it worth our while (in my case - make that half as much again as my present house would actually fetch - which is what would be needed to move back to my, rather dearer, home area into an equivalent house). Twice as much and I'd bite their hand off with the speed I'd accept.

seven-day-weekend

I personally see nothing wrong with a letter along the lines of 'Dear Mrs A,... ( a few greetings) ... I really love your house and it is just the size and position we would like for our growing family. If you ever decide to sell it, please would you give me first refusal? I would of course be happy for an asking price at market value. Kind regards, Mr B'.

She can then ignore it if she wishes. If she does, then don't mention it again.

moneyistooshorttomention

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I personally see nothing wrong with a letter along the lines of 'Dear Mrs A,... ( a few greetings) ... I really love your house and it is just the size and position we would like for our growing family. If you ever decide to sell it, please would you give me first refusal? I would of course be happy for an asking price at market value. Kind regards, Mr B'.

She can then ignore it if she wishes. If she does, then don't mention it again.

Sounds nicely put:T. Something like that (again...done by the wife I would think) and put on a nice card and that sounds about right to me.

OP might even find that neighbour said nothing whatsoever in reply, but left the card there for her executor to find and a note on top to effect of "Ask them if they are still interested, before marketing it generally". Some people do think like that. Years ago an old woman I used to visit sometimes asked me for my contact details at one point. I gave them to her and thought nothing of it, until a while later I found I was answering the phone to her daughter (who I had never met) and mother had stated I was to be invited to her funeral. Daughter invited me and I duly went and paid my respects and said "goodbye". I was surprised mother had thought and planned ahead like that, but some people do.

Dan-Dan

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I personally see nothing wrong with a letter along the lines of 'Dear Mrs A,... ( a few greetings) ... I really love your house and it is just the size and position we would like for our growing family. If you ever decide to sell it, please would you give me first refusal? I would of course be happy for an asking price at market value. Kind regards, Mr B'.

She can then ignore it if she wishes. If she does, then don't mention it again.

Why?!??!

The house will come on the market one day , or it wont , if it does , buy the damn thing

The answers here are shocking , as someone put , would you ask this of a 43 year old , no you wouldnt , your basically offending someone who appears happy and content in THEIR home

Wait it out , whilst keeping a beady eye on things , what else can you do IF you are happy to pay market value at the time anyway!

seven-day-weekend

Dan-Dan wrote: »

Why?!??!

The house will come on the market one day , or it wont , if it does , buy the damn thing

The answers here are shocking , as someone put , would you ask this of a 43 year old , no you wouldnt , your basically offending someone who appears happy and content in THEIR home

Wait it out , whilst keeping a beady eye on things , what else can you do IF you are happy to pay market value at the time anyway!

Yes, if I liked their house I would express my interest in case they ever thought of selling it. It is an accepted way of getting a house within your chosen area. Phil and Kirsty frequently leaflet a place on behalf of their clients . I would not be offended to receive such a letter. If I wasn't selling I would just ignore it.

quidsy

My mum has lived in a desirable school catchment area for 20+ years, starting when she was in her early 40's, she's been asked several times a year plus numerous letters & cards through letter box to ask if she wants to sell. She finally sold her last large house to a family with young kids who wanted to be near the school. Nothing wrong with asking as long as it is done well.

I do think some are making a mountain out of a mole hill.

Dan-Dan

Different strokes an all that , but in my world , approaching 93 year old women about buying their house when the house isnt on the market and in the op`s words , said 93 year old has lived there many years and seems very happy , with relatives round a lot = cant wait till she`s on the other side and is sharking for some sort of bargain

Like i said , everyones different , obviously