Mooloo's "Making my future, one stitch at a time"?

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

I know the staff tried their hardest running the shop in difficult circumstances. I am sorry for your loss.

I know the staff were amazing.
I was not critisizing the staff. I was just saying that I am back to work today so I could take the sign down yesterday, so that it doesn't stop future work being brought to me.
I am very lucky to have them all drop everything and rally around for me.
I wouldn't have been able to keep the shop open without then.
I will learn from the mistakes I made from not leaving the business card there, and for not having the telephone numbers on me, but in the diary at the shop.
I will also learn that keeping busy etc is just how I am! And that we all grieve in different ways. When I feel like crying I picture my Dad ( as he was not in that bed hooked up to all those machines), and what he would say to me.
Make that shop work, he was so proud of me in September when he got back from France and I had rented it.
Boy would he be disappointed in me if I stopped now.
He would hate it for me to wallow about and be wow is me.
Big Girls Knickers on, etc
I will see and thank the staff ASAP.

kelpie35

You take care of yourself too.

You know what and how to cope and you will continue to survive.

You will make all your family proud of what you have and will achieve.

Take care and God bless each and everyone of your family. x

duchy

Just wondering when on earth you'd fit in doing your Mum's housework - remember a cleaner for the bulk of it is always an option.

ivyleaf

Mooloo lovey, you do need to allow yourself to grieve for him. It isn't "wallowing". x

candlelight_2013

Mooloo, as Ivyleaf says you must allow yourself to grieve. I know we all deal with it in different ways, but being so busy that you are not grieving won't be good for you. It will come out sooner or later, and better sooner.

Your Dad was always proud of you, and for goodness sake he would expect a few tears from you, it isn't a sign of weakness it is a sign of caring and loss. If you bury your grief deep, it will eventually come out in different ways and when you least expect it.

You have so much going on in your life and you haven't had chance properly to celebrate the birth of your grandson. Your business is doing so well and your Dad knew that and I am sure he was proud of you for making it a success.

Just take a moment for yourself

Much love

Candlelightx

Brighton_belle

Mooloo wrote: »

We will find the help she needs.
I am confident that she will be fine. As long as she can access the internet, and I do the housework it will be ok. And I will look for a carer etc if we can't cope.

Mooloo, I mean this in a really supportive way, but there is no way you can do your mum's housework: you can barely do your own and are already frequently dropping with utter exhaustion.


I know these are very early days and you'll likely be coming out with ideas before you have thought them through, but you're family who don't live close buy need to know what the realistic expectations of what you can physically manage are.
Save yourself for the nice things with your mum and get someone else (paid) to do the drudge work. I speak as someone in this situation.

thistledome

My sincere condolences, Mooloo

What a terrible shock for you all: I'm so sorry to read this. Your Dad always sounded lovely. Calm, supportive and always knew what to do in a crisis. God bless him.

Bobarella

Just stopping in to see how your day had been.

Bluebell68

I am so very sorry Mooloo
thinking of you and all your family
xx

Savvy_sewing

Not a bad day.
I got to work at the normal time.
Read through the jobs. Etc ordered what was necessary. Made a few telephone calls to appologise to those who were not done on a fast turn around. Also had to explain that one dress that was taken and told they hadn't done it, that actually it had been done. But I forgot to sign it off as I was dashing out the door to the hospital.
Anyway all is well enough. Except I had to redo two of the jobs that were done - not up to standard.
Looks like I shall have to rethink the younger sewers.
Costing me too Much Money.
On the plus side I sold another sewing Machine today.
The credit card machine wasn't working, it turned out the wifi/telephone had been unplugged!
Such is life.
Anyway although I felt tearful a bit on an occasion I have coped ok.
I know it will be the cremation when I break!
But I am ok.
I have always been good in a crisis.
DGD is home. She was upset at the news, but my brother went into Donald Duck mode and had her laughing.
The funeral is on Friday 24th.
Family only. No flowers, but a donation to Help the Heros'
And no dressed in head to toe black.
Fair enough.
Left my brother cooking my Mum dinner and have just got mine in the microwave!
Tomorrow I am calling the doctor about my rash that's getting worse.
The cats went yesterday, but I will need to deep clean to get rid of all the hairs etc.

Re my Mum's cleaning. I will do it on Wednesday afternoon, and sort out a cleaner when mum knows how she is financially.

Now it's time to eat.

Thanks everyone for the well wishes, thoughts etc.
I really do appreciate my virtual friends.