social life

frankie1star

I am considering joining a club called Nexus am based in Norfolk to boost my social life. The problem is I am divorced and all my friends are in relationships (married etc), so I thought that it would be a good idea to join a club specifically to meet single people. I am in my forties and both my children are at University, and find it incredibly difficult to meet new people. I have tried internet dating but not what I am looking for and would like to pursue different activities. Not even sure I want to meet anyone for a relationship but would like to make new friends to do things with....cinema, dinners, sport, chat, holidays.

I wondered if anyone had any views on this particular club, or any suggestions for boosting my social life.

TheWaltons_3

Provided you go for a higher class club, which Nexus is, isn't it? I am sure you wont come across any problems. There are singles holidays you can go on, and don't forget, there are many people who do this simply because they are so busy and wouldn't ordinarily get a chance to date.

Be careful though.. you don't want to end up marrying someone who wants your money! :rotfl:

frankie1star

You think I have money...ha ha..

whitewing

I did have a go with Dateline (I think) once a few years ago. I only went on a few dates with one person, who was perfectly all right but no chemistry. I was pleasantly surprised with how well matched we were - we did have lots in common so was easy enough to talk to..

I felt sad and desperate though. However, my friend met a chap online a few years ago and is now married to him. They really suit each other but would have never met otherwise (opposite ends of the country). Best of luck.

fishingcinema

may sound silly but just an idea do you have a local bingo club or line dancing or any other local halls that do things by you as im sure other people that are like yourself go to things like this it would just be an opertunity to meet new people and prehaps have a good time i thought about joining my local salsa club as a way of keeping fit while meeting new poeple (not saying that you need to kip fit) its worth looking on the internet for whats to do in your area

frankie1star

fishingcinema, am not good with gambling, and am considering Salsa, I already belong to a tennis club, but most members are not single

stilernin

frankie1star wrote: »

I am considering joining a club called Nexus am based in Norfolk to boost my social life. The problem is I am divorced and all my friends are in relationships (married etc), so I thought that it would be a good idea to join a club specifically to meet single people. I am in my forties and both my children are at University, and find it incredibly difficult to meet new people. I have tried internet dating but not what I am looking for and would like to pursue different activities. Not even sure I want to meet anyone for a relationship but would like to make new friends to do things with....cinema, dinners, sport, chat, holidays. I wondered if anyone had any views on this particular club, or any suggestions for boosting my social life.

I belonged to Nexus a few years ago and was within reasonable travelling distance of 4 groups. As Nexus groups are run by the members I found that all were quite different. One smaller group had been running for quite sometime and most members had already paired off which felt no different to going out with a group of marrieds.

To make best use of the considerable membership fee, you need to be quite proactive. All activites are organised locally, and no one will come knocking on your door. You need to go to the regular meetings to know what is going on.

The monthly 'brochure' that listed activities was not always up to date due to the cut off date for copy from all the groups. Also many activites were arranged at shorter notice or the peeps who ran the groups didn't get the copy in on time. When I belonged there was no electronic information sent out, it all seemed a bit old fashioned.

I also found that there was quite a bit of bi!ching (edited to get past the censor) between groups, but I suppose you would get that when things were run locally rather than from the top.

One of the complaints was that some people didn't renew their membership once they got to know every one, but they were still invited to activites. After all, if you are organising a theatre trip and you need to sell 20 tickets for the discount, you are going to make sure you sell them. In the bumf you will read that you are supposed to show your membership card but no one ever asked for mine.

Quite frankly, I'm not sure what the people who owned the company did apart from taking your money and sending a rather old fashioned brochure each month. The locals who ran everything only got their membership for free as far as I could see, so the owners must have been coining it.

Having said all of that, I did meet loads of nice people and did varied things, but remember you have to make the effort to know what it happening.

Funnily enough, having moved recently, I was thinking about looking into joining again.

Good luck any way.

Hapless_2

Put an ad in the personals of a local paper, met a bloke, went out with him for 3 yrs, we split. Then a year later I met up with his brother. 3 months later the brother and I were married. We have 4 kids and have been married 10 yrs.

fsdss

frankie.

i go to salsa classes too, they are great even for people like me with no rythym, i would recommend it to anyone.
at my local salsa there are a few single ones (m + f).

and some of the members go off to a salsa club once a week for a dance off.
its a great way to meet people, its a sexy dance, you want to dress up nice and its very sophisiticated.

TheWaltons_3

Have you considered becoming a part of the Lions club?

It's a Worldwide club that does charity events and so you will go along and help out, there are always dinners and parties to go to and events, and the membership isn't dear at all.


My auntie did this when her husband died and is always busy now, meeting different people and it's like instant friends. You will be so busy taking part, you wont have time to think about being single and will more than likely meet other single like minded people.

My Aunt has a busier social life than me!!!

There are positions within this club, such as Secretary, President, Chairman and all sorts and they go away (all paid for). I remember two Lions getting married and they wore the Purple and Gold colours for the club!

There are hundreds of clubs all over UK and abroad.

http://www.lionsclubs.org/EN/index.shtml

southwestmaid

My sister-in-law joined Nexus a few years ago and had a great social life, the only problem she had was lack of money, a lot of the trips, meals out etc did cost quite a lot, but she did meet some nice people there. I suppose it depends on how often and what type of things members wanted to do. They met once a week at a pub and she went out a lot of theatre trips and meals out.