help and advice needed

fishingcinema

sorry if i have posted in the wrong place

i have been in my flat for about 2 years now and it was fine untill the local teenagers started playing up


i am a single mum to two children one just 2 and one just 1
in recent months the local teenagers have been getting out of hand to name a few things

we have had fireworks going off in the woods behind us at 2am in the morning the woods are literaly 20yards from our frontroom,
our neibour below us was broken into at 1am,
they set fire to the bins outside the flats wich are directly below my kids bedroom window they sit on the wall outside shouting,swearing smashing bottles all hours,they throw stones at everyones windows

the other biggest problem is that my 2 year old daughter dose not sleep she never has done since birth i have taken her to my doctors who just say its behavuioral and that i should just shut her in her bedroom and leave her there(his exact words)she has no naps during the day and sometimes dosent fall asleep till anything from 12pm - 3am also all the noise is not helping her to sleep also now she and the teenagers are waking her younger sister who used to be a good sleeper

i wrote a e-mail explaining my concerns to my housing !!! and also told them of my conserns that i have to leave one of my children downstairs whilst i carry the other one up as i tried carrying them both up once but it resulted in a fall luckily only bruises all round i also told them that i am on the verge of a nervious break down from lack of sleep,eating and sheer worry that one of my children are going to get seriously hurt soon with all that is hapening


Dear Ms

Thank you for your e-mail regarding your housing situation. There are two
options available for you to move from your present address.

The first is to advertise for an exchange with another tenant. I have sent
you an exchange form in the post today and if you can complete it and
return to us we will carryout a search for you from our database.(i have already done this) The
second option is to apply for a transfer via the Joint Housing Transfer
Register which is run by P City Council. Please contact them
directly on and they will send you a transfer form which you
need to complete and return to them


so really i dont know what to do the local teenagers are now going to get worse as it it the summer holidays and they will be out later drinking more as i said my little girl only needs 4 hours sleep a night and when she finaly falls asleep i am still awake worrying that every little noise could be someone trying to break in is a fire work or stone going to come through the window and with the 2 weekly alternative collections now i worry as there is alot of rubbish in the bins that a fire would get out of hand and end up setting fire to my girls bedroom im that concerned that i have now moved both girls into my bedroom so all three of us and 2 cots are squeesed into my room

i have now also sent my housing !!! a letter outlining all of the above and asked for a housing officer to visit me at home but im sure i will just receive the same responce as i did to my email

i am seriously considering giving the flat up but its so hard to find rented accomidation on dss/housing benefit and also to get back on the housing register would take years if they even let me back on

any advice would be hugly appreciated

thanks

TheWaltons_3

Get out of there and quick.

If you can't get council accommodation, couldn't you get private - housing Benefit will pay. If you need the deposit etc, ask them for a Budgeting Loan and under the circumstances, you would hopefully have a good chance.


I really feel for you and yours, I would be beside myself with worry about my children. Where's their Dad?

Slapps

have you spoken to your health vistor. he/she might be able to help with the housing bit as you will have someone on your side that understands. i wouldn't move out of the council flat but i would go to the council offices everyday with your complaint, as they can't ignore you forever. do you call the police about these teenagers/fires as having crimes numbers and police back-up might help too.
not sure if this is any help but i hope you get something sorted out soon.
keep going to your doctor too as a 2 year old needs more than 4 hours sleep.
tc xxxxxxx

fishingcinema

TheWaltons wrote: »

Get out of there and quick.

If you can't get council accommodation, couldn't you get private - housing Benefit will pay. If you need the deposit etc, ask them for a Budgeting Loan and under the circumstances, you would hopefully have a good chance.


I really feel for you and yours, I would be beside myself with worry about my children. Where's their Dad?

thanks for reply i would get private renting but trying to find a landlord that accepts housing benefit/dss is like winning the lottery

globalds

Have you got any tough freinds who can explain that this area isn't a good place to hang around

fishingcinema

Slapps wrote: »

have you spoken to your health vistor. he/she might be able to help with the housing bit as you will have someone on your side that understands. i wouldn't move out of the council flat but i would go to the council offices everyday with your complaint, as they can't ignore you forever. do you call the police about these teenagers/fires as having crimes numbers and police back-up might help too.
not sure if this is any help but i hope you get something sorted out soon.
keep going to your doctor too as a 2 year old needs more than 4 hours sleep.
tc xxxxxxx

thanks for your reply my health visitor came out on thurs to do a 1yr and 2yr developmental check on my children i explanine the whole situiation and how i feel like im having a nervous breakdown and she advised me to see my gp and said the same as you about the police i have phoned them several times and there awnser was to ring 101 i know this sounds stupid but i dont have a home phone and have not always got credit on my mobile phone and as for my 2yr olds sleeping the docs sont seem to want to know i have taken her several times and all i get is its behavuioral or i would just shut her in her room till the morning the latest answer was a leaflet for the local sleep clinic run by health visitors but i know they will just say its all about routine but i have a routine she never naps during the day has bath bottle then bed i have tryed controled crying laying there with her even tried fenergans nothing seems to work shes bionic lol

doraexplorer

i dont have any advice but been watching this thread, there are some brilliant caring people on here who will have lots of advice for you. its getting late but i am sure tomor you will have lots of replies.

i too have 2 children, hope everything works out for you xx

Savvy_Sue

I would try the sleep clinic, because until you have tried that then it may be difficult to get a referral for any other problems there may be. Some children DON'T need a lot of sleep but if you feel your daughter is not getting enough then there is a problem.

As for the local teenagers, do the neighbours also have a problem? Are they willing to keep complaining?

You could go to the police station and ask to be put in touch with your local bobby (if there is one) or ask if there's a unit dealing with antisocial behaviour. There are no quick fixes for this, though ...

fishingcinema

globalds wrote: »

Have you got any tough freinds who can explain that this area isn't a good place to hang around

lol :rotfl: :rotfl: i wish i did would help me out

fishingcinema

doraexplorer wrote: »

i dont have any advice but been watching this thread, there are some brilliant caring people on here who will have lots of advice for you. its getting late but i am sure tomor you will have lots of replies.

i too have 2 children, hope everything works out for you xx

:T :T well said i love this site cant beleive it took me so long to find it been reading some other help posts and there seems to be so mank kind,caring people on here thats why i thought i would post to see what you all think i could do thanks to everyone for taking the time to read through and reply if only everyone was a kind,caring the world would be a better place

fishingcinema

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

I would try the sleep clinic, because until you have tried that then it may be difficult to get a referral for any other problems there may be. Some children DON'T need a lot of sleep but if you feel your daughter is not getting enough then there is a problem.

As for the local teenagers, do the neighbours also have a problem? Are they willing to keep complaining?

You could go to the police station and ask to be put in touch with your local bobby (if there is one) or ask if there's a unit dealing with antisocial behaviour. There are no quick fixes for this, though ...

im definatly going to give the sleep clinic a go as ive got nothing to loose by trying it

as for the other residents im in a small block of only six flats and we have all phoned the police,firemen on several occasions and we have all paid several visits to our housing !!! they just keep saying that its being delt with but its obveiously not also the lady on the floor above me has been trying to move for years she has a three/four year old girl and fell down the stairs with her when she was a baby she damaged her back and is still getting physio now for it but they dont even seem bothered about that

in my opinion they dont really care as long as they can go home to there nice cosy quiet home and get paid at the end of the month thats fine:eek: sorry to seem off obviously there are some that care but it seems that i dont have any in my local offices:o