advice on what to feed a toddler

BAGGY

Nothing is banned for my boys in this house. Just in moderation.
She seems to get little carbs or protein. Does DIL know potatoes have as much vit c as most fruit? Jacket spud and tuna cant be that bad? My sis IL banned sausages because niece threw up after eating them so therefore she must be allergic! She had a stomach bug and it so happened that was the first meal that came up. She never had them for about 5 years and sis IL has planted the seed that they are evil.
Food should be a pleasure, not only to refuel. I sincerely hope she doesnt have food issues when older. If you limit her palate too much she only needs to go off one food group (I no longer eat eggs for some obscure reason) and you are stuffed. I don't know what the answer is. Seems like mum is over thinking this a bit.

littlerock

One saving grace is when they go out to see friends, d-i-l does not impose diet so strictly. Her best friend here is quite outspoken and would probably tell her to lighten up. So they went out for pizza with friends and took the children, and when I asked Elsa what she said she had pizza. Mother looked a bit askance but did not say anything and yesterday they all had fish and chips take away......to eat at home.

anotheruser

You need to tell your daughter in law that she needs to start feeding her daughter meat.

Did it harm her (your daughter in law) when growing up? No.

That is surely almost neglect surely?

Queen81

Aww I am reading this thread and it's quite sad really. My kids are 12 & 9 now, but they ate anything and everything when they were that age. They're not too fussy now, either. The only thing I wouldn't allow was nuts (as I wasn't allowed them when I was small due to my mam's friend's daughter choking on one- and I hate them now, and my kids don't like the taste now they're older). I have (still) Annabel Karmels Feeding Your Baby & Toddler, and used to love making them allsorts of meals. Your DIL is going to have a nightmare on her hands when the little girl is older as she will be so fussy it'll be unreal, aswell as underweight & underdeveloped. I am surprised the health visitor hasn't picked up on her weight if she's as tiny as you say. Where I live, they were quite vigilant when it came to my kids losing weight (had a bout of gastroenteritis at one point).

jjj1980

HOWMUCH wrote: »

I have a 2 year old grandson his diet is as follows:

Breakfast: Weetabix he has 2 with milk, Porridge 3 heaped dessertspoons with milk. He often has a slice of wholemeal toast after.

Snack: Raisins or grapes or apple or banana

Lunch: Sandwich 1 slice of wholemeal bread with either ham, cheese, jam, peanut butter and afew crisps.

Snack: as above morning snack.

Dinner: Shepherd's pie and veg, Fish and veg, Sausage n mash, Spag bol, Quiche and baked beans. Left over veg made into a omlette. He more or less has what his parents have had the previous evening.

Bedtime: Milk and biscuit

Drinks during the day are watered down pure fruit juice.

This sound very much like the meals I used to give my little girl, who is now 5.

She was a premature baby and I was told told to go by her corrected age (based on original due date, making her 6 weeks younger than actual age) for any feeding/weaning etc. At 4 months actual age, she started copying my mouth movements whilst I was eating so started her on baby rice made with her formula then slowly introduced pur!ed veg, then slightly thicker foods. By age of one she was eating smaller portions of my meals.

A big favourite even to this day is pasta with chicken and pesto. Or for a snack, tuna mixed with Mayo and sweet corn, carrot and cucumber sticks and whole meal pitta cut into strips for dipping in the tuna mix.

I don't think the choice of attachment parenting is a bad one at all. The longest my daughter and are were apart up until I started work when she was two was an hour. She settled very quickly into nursery and subsequently school but I had made a point of getting to all and every mum and baby/toddler play group going!