Family rant!

nealallen

It'a a shame it's come to this this, you have a little girl and boy born out of your brother and SIL's marriage. I agree, ask to get some pics of you neice and nephew, don't allow a fall out between your family to destroy what might be a really great chance to be an Auntie to these children.

I've gone through it and not a day goes by when I wonder what my neices and nephews are up to. But what's done is done, and it's not to late to recover from it.

Write or email and gets photo's and as much info on them as possible, then start to build a realtionship with them. Don't mean to put a downer on things, but yo don't know what they have or will ever tell their children about their Auntie, so take the leed and keep in contact, through the children, you never know, some bridges can be mended.

Good luck.

belfastgirl23

Are you sure your brother isn't just constantly inviting you over to assuage a guilty conscience about first of all really upsetting you (and dismissing how upset you were) and secondly moving to the other side of the world. I'd just go with the 'you know i'd love to come but....work money etc, there's plenty of reasons. If he really pushed it I think I'd say that I didn't think it would work because I was worried about ending up upset while I was there. You can acknowledge that he thought how you felt was ridiculous but say that nonetheless it was how you felt at the time.

As for your mum and your brother I think you should make sure your mum knows that your brother is only speculating about coming over. That way if there is fallout you can say clearly that you want to stay out of it.

Families eh! Good luck