Was I right to speak out?

Guest101

supermassive wrote: »

This is a sign of the namby pamby society we live in these days. Utterly ridiculous. I would've slapped the little runt. Then I would've stomped on his parents' ankles if they defended the little piece of excrement.

Kids these days don't understand their place in the chain of command.

Sorry if that seems a bit "OTT" or "Vile" or whatever to some cotton-wool-clan, but the honest truth is that the only way to stop little tearaways being a nuisance is to make them fearful of consequence. Ie: "If I hit him, his brother's going to wallop me" which then translates when they're older to "if I break the law, the police will get me" or something to that effect.

I suspect there are certain people in the world that would've cuddled the child (in a supervised space, obviously) and asked him why he was behaving in such a way, and if there was anything they could do to help him.

Edit: I don't really mean to come across as Katie Hopkins.

Think it's worth pointing out, my kids are well behaved, but should their behaviour be unacceptable and I'm not present I would expect a parent to say something along the lines of: you really can't do that, Uve seriously hurt that/my boy/girl. I will speak to your parents. Then raise the issue with them.

I think or hope your post is sarcastic. But if genuine, I do hope u never carry out your threat, I'd hate to see another parent facing assault charges for your attitude.

marisco_2

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

So my question is do you think I was right to speak out, or was I being out of hand telling another child off?

Any responsible adult would have done just as you did. You may be one of the few people that boy comes into contact with, who takes the time to model acceptable behaviour to him. He will never learn right from wrong if he can go around hurting others and never face any consequences.

Sadly children learn what they live. I question what that little boy is seeing and/or experiencing at home to lash out the way he did. Hopefully you may have given him something to think about, and might have helped prevent him from alienating and isolating himself due to being aggressive.

meritaten

its exactly how I have reacted in the past Counting Pennies. a child should be told straightaway their behaviour is unacceptable.

Kaye1

I would have done exactly the same. I have no problem whatsoever telling off children! If we, as a society, don't step in, then they will never learn that what they are doing is unacceptable. Good for you!

duchy

I'd have spoken out whether it was my child on the end of it or someone else's-and have done in the past.

Good for you.
A firm reminder when boundries are crossed is fine.....screaming and shouting at kids isn't though.

TBagpuss

You were fine. If the child claimed that your son had done the same then it would also be OK to tell him that it is not OK whoever does it, and that if he was hurt he should have spoken to an adult, not hit back.
(not saying your son did do anything, simply that it would have been fine for you to point out the appropriate way to deal with it if he, or any other child, had done)

pickledonionspaceraider

I think you did the right thing

Why do you fear the child will tell their parent? I am sure the parent would want to know if their child is behaving like this

VestanPance

I'll go against the grain. You should have left it to your lad to sort it out.

There's always a bit of rough-housing in a competitive game of football. If the other lad is dishing it out, then your lad needs to stand up for himself and give a bit back during the game.

That and as a young lad the most embarrassing thing in the world would be your mum picking a fight for you. If things are like they were when I was a lad then your boy is likely to get a real slagging for you doing what you did.

Morglin

VestanPance wrote: »

I'll go against the grain. You should have left it to your lad to sort it out.

There's always a bit of rough-housing in a competitive game of football. If the other lad is dishing it out, then your lad needs to stand up for himself and give a bit back during the game.

That and as a young lad the most embarrassing thing in the world would be your mum picking a fight for you. If things are like they were when I was a lad then your boy is likely to get a real slagging for you doing what you did.

I'm with you, as I have been a touchline parent, and my son (and coach) said that, actually, the biggest cross the boys had to bear was parents getting cross and interfering....lol. :eek:

So, I stood there, at times, all gritted teeth, and pent in aggression....but, if they ever want to play competitively, they need to learn to take the knocks, without their mums jumping in...

Let them sort it out themselves.

Lin

Orlando_Virgin

What did the ref give?