Naming a third party in a divorce.

Faith177

Poppie68 wrote: »

Maybe they think by threatening it's most probably going to scare the victim into paying them a lump sum.... sadly some vulnerable people do send money for the strangest of reasons. In your friends case either ignore or tell them they will take their chances in court.

Funny I was just going to comment the same thing (great minds)

Maybe once the "solicitor" had got her details they would have started with the old "if you don't want your husband to find out give us xxx and this can all go away ect ect"

Certainly seems iffy

InsideInsurance

Poppie68 wrote: »

I don't know if it's possible in this country but in some states of America it is possible..... Strangely true.

It isnt in this country and the contract of marriage is between two parties and so you cannot blame a third party for causing one of the others to breach the terms.

Of cause go over seas and all sorts of odd things can happen as per http://www.ndtv.com/article/world/frenchman-fined-8-500-pounds-for-not-having-sex-with-wife-131761 where a guy was fined £8,500 for having not performed his "marital duties" whilst with his now ex wife. I'm sure some would like those kind of duties more formally enshrined into the contract of marriage here too

rpc

pertgave wrote: »

¿?
Is a separation period still a requirement before you file for divorce?
That seems a rather outdated requirement.

Adultery (maximum time limit to apply for divorce exists)
Unreasonable behaviour (usual route, no particular limits apply)
Two years separation with consent
Five years separation without consent

In most cases where both parties want a divorce, unreasonable behaviour is the route to go. Two years is less confrontational but means waiting two years.

If one party objects to the divorce, realistically you are best waiting until the five year mark.

j.e.j.

bluelass wrote: »

I work for a large university so often get to hear things! A lady of around my age (36) got a phone call out of the blue about a month ago from a women saying she had found my co workers number many times on her husbands mobile bill. She went on to say she had discovered her hubby had joined many dating sites and chatted to and met a few other women and as she had seen co workers number many times wanted her name and address so she could instruct her solicitor to send her a letter to ask if she had committed adultery with her husband. Co worker told her to get lost and that she didn't know this ladies hubby and hung up on her. Anyhow she continued to receive calls and messages from her and she said her hubby had admitted to an affair with co worker and this woman said she had 5 children and one due after xmas and she would instruct her solicitor to apply for details of co workers earnings as she had caused the marriage to collapse and she wanted child maintainance off co worker as well as her husband. My co worker thought it was a practical joke but a week after the first phone call a solicitor phoned co worker and asked if she knew the man to which she replied no, he asked for her full name and address she told the solicitor she wasn't going to give either so he told her he will get them through her mobile number by way of a trace. What should be done here? This lady is married too and worried even though she knows she hasn't done anything. The woman who phoned er also says she has found an email from her to her hubby on his computer and that this man is a IT expert.

So I take it the phone calls were made to your co-worker's mobile phone? In the first instance I'd suggest she takes a look at the call log on her phone and tries putting the phone numbers of the "solicitor" and the crazy woman into Google and see if it throws up any results.

Spendless

Back in 2001/2002 an acquaintance was divorcing her husband because he had had an affair with her best friend. She was a hairdresser and on telling the story to a client, got told that the client had had the same thing happen to her and when she'd divorced she had named the other woman and sent both ex and other woman the bill, and that she could do this. My acquaintance rang her solicitor and asked if this was true, and was told yes, and the paperwork went out to the other woman and friends husband for them to sign saying they would pay the costs.

I was in the same room as my acquaintance when she made the phone call to the solicitors asking this question so I've no reason to believe this story isn't true and I've just found something that indicates what my acquaintance was told is correct here.

http://www.terry.co.uk/adultery.html

That's my only suggestion that this woman has learned that she can name another woman and pass on the divorce costs, whether she is scamming, has got hold of the wrong name, is a case of mistaken identity I can't even guess.

Guest101

Spendless wrote: »

Back in 2001/2002 an acquaintance was divorcing her husband because he had had an affair with her best friend. She was a hairdresser and on telling the story to a client, got told that the client had had the same thing happen to her and when she'd divorced she had named the other woman and sent both ex and other woman the bill, and that she could do this. My acquaintance rang her solicitor and asked if this was true, and was told yes, and the paperwork went out to the other woman and friends husband for them to sign saying they would pay the costs.

I was in the same room as my acquaintance when she made the phone call to the solicitors asking this question so I've no reason to believe this story isn't true and I've just found something that indicates what my acquaintance was told is correct here.

http://www.terry.co.uk/adultery.html

That's my only suggestion that this woman has learned that she can name another woman and pass on the divorce costs, whether she is scamming, has got hold of the wrong name, is a case of mistaken identity I can't even guess.

It's because they agree they have committed adultery, and as the article clearly states, the reason they might do this is for a quickie divorce and similarly might agree a less favourable settlement.

Mojisola

Spendless wrote: »

My acquaintance rang her solicitor and asked if this was true, and was told yes, and the paperwork went out to the other woman and friends husband for them to sign saying they would pay the costs.

But the other woman could have refused to sign the paperwork if she didn't want to.

carefullycautious

She must make sure she does not give any personal details over the phone. If this is a real scenario the solicitor would write to her.

Spendless

Guest101 wrote: »

It's because they agree they have committed adultery, and as the article clearly states, the reason they might do this is for a quickie divorce and similarly might agree a less favourable settlement.

Mojisola wrote: »

But the other woman could have refused to sign the paperwork if she didn't want to.

Certainly, I'm merely offering another suggestion to why the woman OP has heard of, might have got the phone call she did, due to a woman wanting to name and send the bill to who she believes the other woman to be.

bluelass

InsideInsurance wrote: »

It isnt in this country and the contract of marriage is between two parties and so you cannot blame a third party for causing one of the others to breach the terms.

Of cause go over seas and all sorts of odd things can happen as per http://www.ndtv.com/article/world/frenchman-fined-8-500-pounds-for-not-having-sex-with-wife-131761 where a guy was fined £8,500 for having not performed his "marital duties" whilst with his now ex wife. I'm sure some would like those kind of duties more formally enshrined into the contract of marriage here too

My word if I was to be fined for not performing regular duties I would have to be declared a bankrupt.:rotfl:;):rotfl: