"Kindness glues couples together"

marisco_2

I think it is important to be kind and make the effort to treat a partner with respect, doing what you can to show them that you care about them. The best sort of generosity is when you are willing to give without needing to get something back.

Being tolerant and open-minded goes a long way in building strong connections too. Having a non-judgmental attitude and accepting that there will be differences in opinion builds trust. When people feel understood and know they will not be judged for making mistakes they can be their real self.

SandC

I completely agree with this. I've been in relationships where I've just felt taken for granted and my thoughtfulness and kindness has not been reciprocated. To this day I cannot understand why in some couples they would treat their friends, colleagues, family members with complete respect but not their partners.

Consequently it's something I would cherish in a partner, and is how I pick my friends also. This has nothing to do with having money spent on you btw.....

Mojisola

meritaten wrote: »

No - you just 'give up'. and the kindness and positivity becomes resentment. You can keep 'giving' and 'giving' and one day you realise - its like sowing seeds on stony ground. and then something dies in you and you just don't 'give' anymore.

There have been a few threads started on here by the 'giver' in a relationship who has reached that point. It can be very hard to break away because the partner hasn't been unfaithful, violent or otherwise openly nasty.

HPoirot

silvercar wrote: »

The kindness and positivity rubs off on the other one.

Kindness never rubs off on the mean-hearted. It has to be experienced to be believed. Silent killer for the kinder partner, morally and eventually physically.