Struggling with ex's behaviour - using children. Warning massive rant.

Caroline_a

YetanotherAE wrote: »

Now he is here every night for hours, making snide remarks and outright insults to me in front of the children, contradicting everything I say, doing some major stirring with my routines and consequences and generally being unpleasant. The younger 2 children have asked to visit his house overnight and he has ignored them in favour of taking the older children for the night 1 or 2 at a time. I suspect this is to make it difficult for me to make plans as it means I have to be at his beck and call all weekend.

This part for me has particularly stuck out. OP please stop this now. Either you have split up, or you haven't. Refuse to let him in - if he wants to see the children then let him make an arrangement. Otherwise, you may as well be together!!

cavework

When people split up and have kids the main consideration should be the welfare of those children.
Both parents were adult enough to bring these children into the world , now all it takes is for both adults to act as responsibly when it comes to their relationship failing.
If one adult cannot behave in this way then the onus is on the other to act as a grown up and take responsibility for those children and the effect the breakup is having on them..
You are their mother ..stop taking s..t from your other half and act in the interest of your kids.
This is game playing at the expense of the children

miss_kc

Suggest that you see a solicitor with a view to getting an injunction preventing him accessing the family home if that is how he is acting. I put up with this type of behaviour for well over a year to try and give my ex time to come to terms with the split - he never did. Word of warning make sure that the injunction has "yardage boundaries" mine didn't and he waited for the flat next door to become vacant then moved in! This is controlling and intimidating behaviour please take steps to protect both yourself and the children