Moral dilemma: Snooping through Facebook

barbiedoll

I shall freely admit to having the occasional snoop through the FB profile of my ex-husband's wife (or soon to be ex-wife if FB can be trusted )

I only have a look a couple of times a year, if that. She used to spill her guts about her marriage problems, which amused me hugely, but one of her friends must have told her to tighten her security. Anyway, nowadays, you can only see a small part of her profile so I don't bother very often. (I know that this makes me sound like a dreadful person but I never claimed to be perfect!)

Anyway.....I looked her up about 5 mins ago and there are two listings under her (unusual) name, one of which has one of her photos on it but a different location. I had a look at this one and the profile shows her as having 10 friends, all of whom are located in Syria, or similar, and most of them have names written in Arabic.

I clicked on a couple of the "friends" profiles and there are lots of pictures of Syrian (I assume) guys in the desert, along with guns, pictures of armoured vehicles and so on. It all looks a bit suspicious and I'm fairly sure that they are nothing to do with this woman. Her account appears to have been hacked, or else they have used her details and picture to create a new account.

I would report it via FB but I don't want her to know that it was me who reported it, for obvious reasons. (I'm really not bothered about her knowing that I snoop, but my ex was a violent drunk and I don't want him knowing my new married name.) I'm not this woman's No 1 fan but I wouldn't want her (or her kids) to have any come back from this, if they have used her account details who knows what other details they have of hers?

What should I do? Report, or leave well alone and mind my own business (for a change!)

Lily-Rose_3

barbiedoll wrote: »

I shall freely admit to having the occasional snoop through the FB profile of my ex-husband's wife (or soon to be ex-wife if FB can be trusted )

I only have a look a couple of times a year, if that. She used to spill her guts about her marriage problems, which amused me hugely, but one of her friends must have told her to tighten her security. Anyway, nowadays, you can only see a small part of her profile so I don't bother very often. (I know that this makes me sound like a dreadful person but I never claimed to be perfect!)

Anyway.....I looked her up about 5 mins ago and there are two listings under her (unusual) name, one of which has one of her photos on it but a different location. I had a look at this one and the profile shows her as having 10 friends, all of whom are located in Syria, or similar, and most of them have names written in Arabic.

I clicked on a couple of the "friends" profiles and there are lots of pictures of Syrian (I assume) guys in the desert, along with guns, pictures of armoured vehicles and so on. It all looks a bit suspicious and I'm fairly sure that they are nothing to do with this woman. Her account appears to have been hacked, or else they have used her details and picture to create a new account.

I would report it via FB but I don't want her to know that it was me who reported it, for obvious reasons. (I'm really not bothered about her knowing that I snoop, but my ex was a violent drunk and I don't want him knowing my new married name.) I'm not this woman's No 1 fan but I wouldn't want her (or her kids) to have any come back from this, if they have used her account details who knows what other details they have of hers?

What should I do? Report, or leave well alone and mind my own business (for a change!)

It's your call. Do whatever your heart tells you to do.

stormbreaker

Someone with a better knowledge of FB would be better at telling you if you can report things anonymously.

Alternately report to crime stoppers and let the authorities deal with it. I would think they would be interested. Then there is no come back on you.

ttoli

stormbreaker wrote: »

Someone with a better knowledge of FB would be better at telling you if you can report things anonymously.

Alternately report to crime stoppers and let the authorities deal with it. I would think they would be interested. Then there is no come back on you.

If it's posted on FB and even remotely suspicious then those in the know/interested parties are already aware.

Morglin

FB is monitored by the authorities, so if it's a problem, they probably know.

I would stay right out if it......:eek:

Lin

stormbreaker

ttoli wrote: »

If it's posted on FB and even remotely suspicious then those in the know/interested parties are already aware.

I wouldn't be so sure about that. I say report to crime stoppers. You can do it online. Does not take too much time.

duchy

If the Moral dilemma is snooping through facebook then it's a bit late to be asking.

As for the snooping on your ex's wife -have you considered getting some help for your obsession ? Your GP would be a good first stop.

summerspring

duchy wrote: »

If the Moral dilemma is snooping through facebook then it's a bit late to be asking.

As for the snooping on your ex's wife -have you considered getting some help for your obsession ? Your GP would be a good first stop.

Doctors up and down the country would be run off their feet if everyone who snooped on FB went to their GP :rotfl:

barbiedoll

duchy wrote: »

If the Moral dilemma is snooping through facebook then it's a bit late to be asking.

As for the snooping on your ex's wife -have you considered getting some help for your obsession ? Your GP would be a good first stop.

Hahaha...yes, I'm sure the GP has a cure for terminal nosiness!

Would Crimestoppers be interested in something like this? I wouldn't trust FB to notice any potential wrong-doing on their site, as far as they're concerned, we're all just bundles of data to sell to advertisers, aren't we?

farmerboy

Report made to FB are done annon, have done it in the past myself and had no comeback

bagpussbear

Whilst you cannot report things to facebook anonymously as such, they do not let on who reported it. FB says:
What happens when I report something to Facebook? Does the person I report get notified?

Don't worry, your report is anonymous. When something gets reported to Facebook, we'll review it and remove anything that doesn't follow the Facebook Community Standards. We don't include any information about the person who filed the report when we reach out to the person responsible.




Personally, I am not so sure I would do so though. Whilst I will hold my hands up to the fact I once looked up my ex husband's FB profile out of curiousity, I think to do so regularly/occasionally might be a bit unhealthy?