first date in eleven years !

purpleshoes_2

Its an American site. I could just imagine how a date like that would go down "don't give out your cookies", "let him take the lead", in many parts of the UK.

How about, just go out and enjoy yourself and forget all the rubbish spouted in these kinds of articles.

TrickyWicky

supermassive wrote: »

My partner and I have absolutely nothing in common, so don't let that hold you back :rotfl:

+1

Me and mine are chalk and cheese. Somehow we've made it through 10 years. We have absolutely nothing in common so frankly I would say that nobody should worry about having things in common with other people. If you do, great if you don't.. you can still be great.

jaylee3

supermassive wrote: »

My partner and I have absolutely nothing in common, so don't let that hold you back :rotfl:

TrickyWicky wrote: »

+1

Me and mine are chalk and cheese. Somehow we've made it through 10 years. We have absolutely nothing in common so frankly I would say that nobody should worry about having things in common with other people. If you do, great if you don't.. you can still be great.

I must admit, I struggle to fathom how a relationship can blossom and advance if the two people involved have nothing in common.

You don't have to have ALL the same interests of course, but to have NOTHING in common? How can a relationship like this work?

If I was single and I met someone who had ZERO interest in the things I am interested in, then the relationship wouldn't last long.

supermassive

jaylee3 wrote: »

I must admit, I struggle to fathom how a relationship can blossom and advance if the two people involved have nothing in common.

You don't have to have ALL the same interests of course, but to have NOTHING in common? How can a relationship like this work?

If I was single and I met someone who had ZERO interest in the things I am interested in, then the relationship wouldn't last long.

Can you imagine how bored you'd be if you met your absolute double? Yawn.

The way it works is that we're so different, nothing's ever very predictable. I learn new things (not so much), he learns new things (every hour), we meet people that are fun who we wouldn't have ever met without eachother. We go places that we wouldn't necessarily go to out of choice, and end up discovering new things and making memories.

It's the greatest thing ever.

You don't even need to have anything in common to wind up meeting these days, with social networking and the like.

The trick is to be open minded about things.

For example, I have very little (zero) interest in musical theatre, but OH is part of a theatre group. I've been along to support him a few times and actually not wanted to shoot myself in the face - which is a good thing - so it's adding to my personal development and means I have experienced something new. You know what? It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, and I could probably grow to enjoy it if I tried it enough.

Do something you don't want to. It might turn out to be the best thing you've ever tried!

Orlando_Virgin

I am honestly a believer that the main thing that you need to have in common is your sense of humour. As long as you can laugh together and enjoy the same kind of thing, then you have got a good fighting chance. In other walks of life like finances, I think it's actually BETTER to be chalk and cheese, one tight on the purse strings and the other one a bit looser, if you were matched in ways of life then I think it would be a bit boring.

Lily-Rose_3

I am on the fence here. I don't think it would be great if you had all the same interests, and I do actually like having different interests to my husband.

However, I think it's important to have some things in common.

I can't personally see the relationship going the distance if you don't share any interests at all. I think you have to have SOME things in common surely? Maybe not all, but a few at least.

Each to their own.