a big problem.............

TBeckett100

Hopefully he may discover that his new girlfriend wont love him long time and is just sat there receiving money from all sorts of men around the world. Personally, i'd ring him through the court process and rack up his legals.

Cyberman60

If it's any consolation, your ex with brains in his pants is heading for a fall. As soon as the money dries up she will be off IMO.

katonia

Cyberman60 wrote: »

If it's any consolation, your ex with brains in his pants is heading for a fall. As soon as the money dries up she will be off IMO.

I agree with this!! but all he seems to care about is her at mo and has his head in the clouds!! he is on a good wage 47k per year, but seems to be sending it all to her.

he is paying the maintenance but I was annoyed as the extra he sent her could of paid for removals ect. I cant stay put now as have signed a tenancy I did think about it but dont want to be in this house at any cost, solicitors wont give legal aid now unless you have been domestically abused, she even has a fb picture of him and her taken whilst he was cheating on me!!

I just want to move on he doesent deserve me imo but also want to ensure we dont get done over in the process

I will be looking for part time work once settled in new place.

aileth

katonia wrote: »

also worried that she is scamming him but who knows

Can't help with the technical stuff except echo with others have said regarding legal advice. You can get 30 minutes free at a lot of firms, which can clear up a lot of stuff. CAB should assist as well.

However regarding what I've quoted, I wouldn't worry about that in the slightest. In fact, I'd bloody welcome it. What wonderful karma it would be

Gigglepig

Speak to a lawyer and try to secure half the marriage assets (the house, pensions, savings etc) - ask the lawyer if you can remain in the house with the child and to only need to release his half of the equity when the child turns 18 or leaves full time education (whichever is latest). Nb if he has a larger pension than you, offset against you getting a larger share of the equity.

If this turns out to be a scam then it could be a good thing for your husband as well that the money will be tied down in the house or pension, and not be available immediately.

eskimo26

katonia wrote: »

I am disgusted at this behavior and keeping the peace for the sake of our little boy,

and if he stops paying then I wont be able to pay the bills at new place

What?! I don't mean to be harsh but are you for real? Is HE thinking of your little boy? Your Son deserves to have a guaranteed roof over his head and how are you moving on when your relying on his money to live in your new place? You actually think you can trust him? Your Son deserves to have someone fight on his behalf to get him financial security not a home that relies on finances from a man who prioritizes the financial needs of a glorified prostitute.

Your letting him bully you and your son will ultimately lose out but good luck.

HPoirot

Move on from him doing this, that and the other for the Filipina lady and start to seriously consider your financial options. I am afraid there is nothing to be gained from chatting, about him blowing his money away, on here or even from a DIY divorce form. You need serious legal advice and the sooner the better.

katonia

You can’t apply for home rights if your spouse or civil partner owns the property with someone else - unless your spouse or civil partner would get all the money if the property was sold (also known as being the ‘sole beneficial owner’).

jackyann

I would definitely speak to the Housing Dept. at your local council - you are at risk of becoming homeless, with a child (sorry if that sounds blunt but it is the case!)
Although you may feel that they are not of much help, they can point out options and offer advice about your rights regarding housing.

I would also speak to your child's school. They need to know about major things affecting him, and many schools have some sort of welfare / family support worker who can advise about local options.

I don't know what is available locally to you, but consider CAB, local Law Centre, Children's Centre.

If completely stymied, go onto your local council website, look for Children's Services, and consider filling out a Common Assessment Framework form, saying that your child is "in need" (of housing that you may not be able to provide). There should also be an advice number.

Please don't be afraid of declaring what you need and letting the authorities know what a precarious situation you & LO are in - this is not your fault.