Buyer wants to view house, ex says I cannot go too

thumpertwinkle

Try to cut a long story short, I left the house because ex wouldn't go, DV, I went into private rent with 4 kids, got divorce on DV and had to go through courts for house sale. Had to get court orders for every step of the way, order to market, order for sale when buyer found. The buyer wishes to view the house with his son tomorrow and ex is saying I cannot go to the house with buyer.

I am worried the ex is going to put the buyer off and make him pull out of the sale, he has tried everything in his power to stop this for three years!!

I am sure legally I can accompany the buyer and make sure the ex does not say anything untoward.

thumpertwinkle

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

Is the estate agent accompanying the buyer?

If so, ring them now and get them to explain the situation to the buyer before they go in so the ex is "neutralized".

No they are not. Buyer is aware of difficulties with the ex, buyer has waited since July for court to order the sale. I am really worried though because buyer has expressed concern of ex refusing to move out when sale is completed.

Mojisola

thumpertwinkle wrote: »

The buyer wishes to view the house with his son tomorrow and ex is saying I cannot go to the house with buyer.

I am worried the ex is going to put the buyer off and make him pull out of the sale, he has tried everything in his power to stop this for three years!!

I am sure legally I can accompany the buyer and make sure the ex does not say anything untoward.

I once viewed a house with both of the divorcing couple present - it was a horrible experience and put me right off the house.

Voyager2002

The buyer has shown such persistence that probably nothing that the ex could say or do would put them off at this stage... however buyer clearly is planning to buy your house for much less than it would be worth under normal conditions.

My suggestions are things that you have obviously already considered and that are not options for you: go to court to get a possession order so that ex has to leave house, or alternatively make her understand just how much money you both lose because of this uncooperative behaviour and seek to get her to see reason. Clearly the latter would only work if she stood to gain a good proportion of the extra dosh that a sale under more normal conditions would raise...

Annisele

I don't see how you could stop your ex from saying anything untoward even if you were there. Certainly you could put your side of things - but actually stopping him from speaking sounds unlikely. As Mojisola says, your presence could make things even more uncomfortable for the buyer.

thumpertwinkle

The buyer and I have each others mobile numbers so I can contact him perhaps and explain that ex husband is kicking off with me again, he is aware of his behaviour, so I will not be present or ask if he wishes to go when ex not present.

thumpertwinkle

Voyager2002 wrote: »

The buyer has shown such persistence that probably nothing that the ex could say or do would put them off at this stage... however buyer clearly is planning to buy your house for much less than it would be worth under normal conditions.

My suggestions are things that you have obviously already considered and that are not options for you: go to court to get a possession order so that ex has to leave house, or alternatively make her understand just how much money you both lose because of this uncooperative behaviour and seek to get her to see reason. Clearly the latter would only work if she stood to gain a good proportion of the extra dosh that a sale under more normal conditions would raise...

I asked about an eviction order at the order of sale and the judge said i would have to apply for that separately. Not sure how to go about it really...

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Think it might be a good time to find out. Ask a solicitor?

surfsister

Voyager2002 wrote: »

The buyer has shown such persistence that probably nothing that the ex could say or do would put them off at this stage... however buyer clearly is planning to buy your house for much less than it would be worth under normal conditions.

My suggestions are things that you have obviously already considered and that are not options for you: go to court to get a possession order so that ex has to leave house, or alternatively make her understand just how much money you both lose because of this uncooperative behaviour and seek to get her to see reason. Clearly the latter would only work if she stood to gain a good proportion of the extra dosh that a sale under more normal conditions would raise...

think it's a him not a her!

MysteryMe

I don't understand why the EA is not being instructed to accompany the potential buyer. I think you need to insist on this.

agrinnall

I'm pretty sure that as an owner of the house you have a legal right to enter it whenever you like, so your ex probably can't stop you being there for the buyer. However, whether that is the sensible thing to do is debatable. I'd agree with other posters that getting the EA to do viewings would be best, but really only if they can do so in the absence of both you and your ex.