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Giving money to boyfriend then splitting
leoniestacy
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Hiya i hope this is in the right forum.
My friend came into £20,000 as a back payment for something, her boyfriend pushed for this money to go into his account, and she did put the money into his account, since then they have split and is refusing to give the money back. can she do anything to get the money back?
My friend came into £20,000 as a back payment for something, her boyfriend pushed for this money to go into his account, and she did put the money into his account, since then they have split and is refusing to give the money back. can she do anything to get the money back?
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leoniestacy wrote: »Hiya i hope this is in the right forum.
My friend came into £20,000 as a back payment for something, her boyfriend pushed for this money to go into his account, and she did put the money into his account, since then they have split and is refusing to give the money back. can she do anything to get the money back?
The general rule is only lend what you can afford to lose...
BUT... if she has the paperwork proving that the money was hers, then she needs to send him a letter before action, giving him 14 days to pay the money to her in full before she takes court action against him.
Does she have any evidence of him asking the money to be paid into his account? Emails? Notes? voice messages? Texts?Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0 -
The general rule is only lend what you can afford to lose...
BUT... if she has the paperwork proving that the money was hers, then she needs to send him a letter before action, giving him 14 days to pay the money to her in full before she takes court action against him.
Does she have any evidence of him asking the money to be paid into his account? Emails? Notes? voice messages? Texts?
no shes got nothing of him asking as it was done face to face, and he could say it was a gift. im guessing she dont really have a leg to stand on, just thought i would ask though£2014 in 2014 challenge v-£30 c-£176.23 £201.23/£2014
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Is she a vulnerable adult in any way? Did she feel she couldn't refuse him for some reason?
She should get legal advice she could phone around to solicitors who will give her an indication of if she has any grounds to take legal action or try those internet solicitors.:j Trytryagain FLYLADY - SAYE £700 each month Premium Bonds £713 Mortgage Was £100,000@20/6/08 now zilch 21/4/15:beer: WTL - 52 (I'll do it 4 MUM)0 -
leoniestacy wrote: »no shes got nothing of him asking as it was done face to face, and he could say it was a gift. im guessing she dont really have a leg to stand on, just thought i would ask though
She has two perfectly good legs to stand on.
Send this letter:
Dear <ex's name>
On <date> I received the sum of £20000 which was given to me by <insert reason why she got the money>. This money was paid into your bank account at your request for safe keeping. Despite this, the money was 100% mine.
As we are no longer in a relationship, I now require this money back. I therefore give you 14 days to return the full sum of money, either by cheque or by bank transfer.
Failure to pay back this money in full will leave me no option but to take you to court for the full amount, using the evidence showing that the money was mine.
Kind regards,
<name>
Send the letter with proof of postage from TWO different post offices (to prove he received it).
Does she have anyone that would write her a statement saying that he insisted that the money was paid into his account? Or anyone willing to write a statement saying he was a bully and threatened her if she didn't put the money in?
Is there any particular reason why she didn't put it in hers?
It is highly unlikely a court would think that she would just hand over £20k!!Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0 -
She could possibly contact his bank with the account number and say the payment is in dispute and is subject to a court action. I don't know whether the bank would take any action to prevent the money being withdrawn but it's worth trying but your friend would probably need to take him to court. Personally, if she has no written evidence saying the money was paid into his account for convenience only I don't think she has a leg to stand on. A very expensive learning experience on her part sadly.0
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At the end of the day, it would come down to her word against his.
But that is often the case in court and it all depends who the judge is likely to believe.
Personally, I'd bet on the judge believing her.
After all, it's only civil balance of probability and why would she give him 20k?0 -
The general rule is only lend what you can afford to lose...
BUT... if she has the paperwork proving that the money was hers, then she needs to send him a letter before action, giving him 14 days to pay the money to her in full before she takes court action against him.
Does she have any evidence of him asking the money to be paid into his account? Emails? Notes? voice messages? Texts?
I 100% agree with this. I would never ever in a million years lend ANYONE any money, unless I could afford to lose it.
There was a programme on the other day about a couple who lent their life savings (£50K) to a NEIGHBOUR to start a business. No paperwork, no nothing. They drew out the CASH and gave it to him.
They have never seen a penny of the money.
Can't help feeling that they are somehow more to blame than the chap who didn't give the money back!!! Gullible and stupid doesn't even cover it.You didn't, did you? :rotfl::rotfl:0 -
Proving you are owed money is one thing.
Actually using the courts etc to get it back is another...
How much do debt recoveries buy debt for..? 20pc?
And I've heard they'll write off most amounts under 10k, just due to admin costs...0 -
Don't tell me... did he initiate or provoke the split by any chance?
If, in face, she did, why did she give him the money if she had doubts about their relationship?0 -
Hedgehog99 wrote: »
why did she give him the money if she had doubts about their relationship?
Why did she put the money into his account at all - regardless of how ''strong'' their relationship ''felt''...?
I can't help wondering if there was some attempt to hide this money from some person or organisation, HMRC, DWP etc..???0
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