our ideal house under offer from someone else heartbroken but not sold ours yet

Davesnave

nadmaj wrote: »

I know but that was perfect for us right price, good area,perfect amount of space.. we've been looking for ages and that was the perfect one...................

I wonder how old you are. Those are very basic requirements, so they are attainable if the majority of houses in that area fall in your price bracket.

But you were not in a position to buy if you had to sell yours first, so you didn't lose it.

I'm probably much older than you. Back a few years, when house selling was hard, we thought we'd sold three times, but each time our sale fell through. So, we were in a buying position, and then we weren't, three times over. Every time we lost a house. Finally, when we did sell, we went into rented! We'd realised none of the 'lost' houses was actually right for us, as we had very hard criteria to meet.

Many months later we did buy again, but not the sort of house we imagined, nor even within 100 miles of where we intended to go. It was a purchase made with the head, not the heart, but we've actually been happy with it.

And the 'perfect' house did come up, just when we were having some bother buying this, so I had my eyes off Rightmove for a day or two. It was under offer by the time I saw it, not that the agent bothered to flag that up! If I told people how perfect that place was they'd not believe me.

But in one sense it wasn't 'perfect' anyway. Like the perfect partner who isn't aware of you, because they attended college the year after you, that house wasn't written into our life script; it was in someone else's.

That's your 'perfect' house too at present; in someone else's story. You will write your own.

bouicca21

Earlier this year I was gutted when I found the ideal house in the midst of the London property madness and couldn't match let alone exceed the winning offer. There were similar 'ideal' houses but they were now clearly all outside my price bracket. I continued to look - I looked at all sorts of different properties before settling for something completely different to that 'ideal' house. And you know what? The flat I bought is perfect. It has the right kind of space, is in the right sort of area and is near not one but two lovely parks.

So hang on in, like buses, there's always another ideal place on the way.

Keith1985

Personally I think it's a dangerous game to be seriously looking at houses until you've sold yours, as this situation happens everyday up and down the country. Keep a bit of an eye on what's out there so can can arrange viewings once you've agreed a sale on yours, but don't start viewing until you're in a proceed able situation. Your house will be the 'perfect house' for whoever's bought it so most buyers will be happy to wait for you to find.

Avoid the heartbreak but not looking until you're ready!

DRP

^Agree with Keith.

Until you have the cash in your pocket the fact is you can't afford to buy a house.

Don't set your heart on a house until you are SSTC. Even when you have accepted an offer, you still are at the whim of buyer, mortgage company etc.

EmmyLou30

I know it feels the end of the world right now, but like someone else said, it's the ideal house now till the next one you actually end up buying comes along!

We searched for 3 years, found 'the one', had it withdrawn from sale after we'd paid all our money on surveys etc and I did cry over it :-( thinking we'd take another 3 years to find another. 2 months later we found something even better, cheaper, better layout and was definitely worth it in the end. At the time though I thought we'd never find another. We'd have been happy in the previous house but I think we'll be even happier in the one we got :-) Hang on in there.

cinnamon442

We lost a flat in January and I thought it was perfect - three bedrooms, two bathrooms, right on the high street, 2 minutes from the station... I had a little niggle about it though, because it only had permit parking and on a busy road. I pushed them down and carried on. Then it fell through because the valuer valued it at zero.

Fast forward six months and we're now in a two bedroom one bathroom two-storey maisonette. It's smaller than the other place was, but the valuation came back perfectly, it has its own garage, on street parking and is far enough away from the high street/station that it's quiet at night. Unlike the other place.

It always seems like the perfect place, the ideal house, until something better comes along and you realise that what you thought you wanted isn't what you actually need! Hang in there.

jacko74

cinnamon442 wrote: »

We lost a flat in January and I thought it was perfect - three bedrooms, two bathrooms, right on the high street, 2 minutes from the station... I had a little niggle about it though, because it only had permit parking and on a busy road. I pushed them down and carried on. Then it fell through because the valuer valued it at zero.

Fast forward six months and we're now in a two bedroom one bathroom two-storey maisonette. It's smaller than the other place was, but the valuation came back perfectly, it has its own garage, on street parking and is far enough away from the high street/station that it's quiet at night. Unlike the other place.

It always seems like the perfect place, the ideal house, until something better comes along and you realise that what you thought you wanted isn't what you actually need! Hang in there.

How/why did the valuer value it at zero?!

Pixie5740

I've lost count of the number of "dream" homes I've seen. Now I feel a bit sad when someone else has an offer accepted on a property I like but something better always turns up.

cinnamon442

jacko74 wrote: »

How/why did the valuer value it at zero?!

Possible structural damage, possible damp, possible roof problems, but the biggest reason seemed to be because there was a curry house down the road! All the others were 2's and 'get quotes', but the curry house was a deal breaker apparently!

kep79

Loopy28 wrote: »

Not quite the same but similar....

While we were in the process of getting ready to sell our house, there were lots that looked suitable on the market. By the time we got our backsides into gear and got ours on the market, all the houses we liked had either been sold or withdrawn from the market.

Now there is literally nothing new coming on the market, ours has sold and I bet in the Spring after we have purchased one, lots will come on the market and we'll wish they came on earlier!

We're in exactly this situation too!