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Ex refusing to discuss settlement/divorce
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6k is a lot of money but not enough to make yourself ill over. If you can afford to write it off (its money already spent) then do and move on. Is 6k worth the stress hassle and upset for months? Only you can decide....
£6k is a lot of money and it is actually a compromised amount. It was initially agreed at £8k but reality is it should be around £10k. For the sake of moving on, I dropped to an agreeable amount. If I write it off, which I am tempted to do, it means I am left with debts from the marriage. My new partner is happy to take this on with me but at the same time, why should my ex be able to continue living as he does without any responsibility?I agree with the above poster. Write this off or go the whole hog and take him to court for everything you're entitled to. Half measures and compassion are getting you nowhere and giving you a lot of stress. Five years is a long time to have a former marriage hanging over you.
That's been half my problem... I have shown too much compassion and he's walked all over that. I guess for me, when I found out his Dad had a stroke, I didn't want to push. I lost my Dad in the year I finally decided to leave but if ex has any compassion, he would give me the divorce0 -
Regarding the divorce, you can do that yourself for a few hundred pounds. Download the paperwork from the courts web-site and fill in.
As long as the paperwork is served properly, you should be able to sort this out yourself.
It is the financial settlement that is the sticking point. That is what you need help with.
How much equity is in the house now?If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
How much equity is in the house now?
I can only tell you approximately.... that's another reason for me leaving. Not being upfront with finances. He bought the house as an ex repossession for £30k with a 20yr mortgage I believe. I found out towards the end of the marriage that he had re-mortgaged to do renovations, but this didn't seem to happen and he just got more gadgets (TV's, gaming consoles, arcade machine and computers)
I don't know how much his mortgage is now but I know the property is worth around £110k (£125k once renovations are completed)0 -
Ok, so I'm in shock right now... :shocked:
Was preparing to send a letter to my ex advising that if he didn't respond with 14 days the matter would be taken to court with a view of claiming 50% of the marital assets.... then an email dropped into my inbox.
It seems ex has finally been to a solicitor and has instructed them to proceed with a divorce petition on the basis of a 2 year separation and confirmed the financial settlement of £6k minus £500 already paid. He's even confirmed he will bear the cost of the divorce suit.
Must admit I have mixed feelings... Relief that I can finally move on but anger that this same agreement has been on the table for over a year but he's dragged it out :wall:0 -
Who wants to bet he just got engaged
Anyway, good news!0 -
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h3llsb3lls wrote: »Agree, or he's just come into money...
Remember all assets of the marriage upto the date of the divorce, are part of the financial settlement.
So if he has come into money, you could be entitled to half of it.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
Maybe it's just coming up to Christmas/New Year and he has finally decided to move on with his life.:heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.0
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Maybe it's just coming up to Christmas/New Year and he has finally decided to move on with his life.
It could be that, and I'm glad he has finally decided to move on.. Just frustrating that he has left me hanging for so long.
The only thing missing from his solicitors letter is confirmation of my remaining belongings being returned.
Main thing is my car service book and spare key. Have been chasing him for ages as I know I did not bring it with me (ex is a hoarder and so some of my things were put into carrier bags and shoved into various rooms) It will cost approx £150 to replace.
Why can't things be simple :undecided0
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