Presents for couples

wiogs

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

That's infuriating, I'm guessing they know you don't drink?



I think this is probably the safest bet- I know they do like these sorts of things. Will have a look now!

They do - they are just lazy unimaginative bar-stewards

Buzzybee90

wiogs wrote: »

They do - they are just lazy unimaginative bar-stewards

This is the worst - when you put loads of effort into something for someone and they don't show any thought in return. Someone once gave me a box of tissues for Christmas....!

suejb2

You are A and B and the others are C and D.

Is it that you AB get a present for C and a present for D (2 gifts) or AB get CD a present (1 gift) or A and B get CD a present (1 gift)or A gets C and D and B gets C and D a present (4 gifts). I've even confused myself further now!

Sorry it may be because I haven't had my coffee yet!

Don't feel obliged to match what you receive,give present(s) because it's what you want to give.


COFFEE!!!!!

Buzzybee90

suejb2 wrote: »

You are A and B and the others are C and D.

Is it that you AB get a present for C and a present for D (2 gifts) or AB get CD a present (1 gift) or A and B get CD a present (1 gift)or A gets C and D and B gets C and D a present (4 gifts). I've even confused myself further now!

Sorry it may be because I haven't had my coffee yet!

Don't feel obliged to match what you receive,give present(s) because it's what you want to give.


COFFEE!!!!!

Previously us AB got presents for C&D and CD got presents for us A&B. I realise it is really confusing! I propose that us AB gets one present for CD, I would not mind if CD got us one present AB instead of A&B.

Pollycat

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

My friends got married in January this year - we are cutting our Christmas budget this year and I'm wondering if it's ok to get them a joint present, as opposed to one each?

Or should we just get two smaller presents?

Why not go the whole hog and suggest to them that both couples don't bother buying presents at all.

I always think it very sad when charity shops are full of unwanted Christmas gifts after 27th December.

I wonder just how many gifts are actually appreciated.

PrettyKittyKat

I think joint presents are fine if it is something they both will use and I usually spend slighlty more than single ones. So for example, if you usually spend £10 per person and want to cut back for a joint gift, maybe spend £15? Although saying that it is not about the cost it is about the thought behind the gift and how useful it is to the recipient.

Things like movie night hampers, chocolates hampers (if both like chocolates!), fancy tea and biscuit hampers, gardening hampers... hmm.. I am seeing a theme of hampers! haha

Buzzybee90

Pollycat wrote: »

Why not go the whole hog and suggest to them that both couples don't bother buying presents at all.

I always think it very sad when charity shops are full of unwanted Christmas gifts after 27th December.

I wonder just how many gifts are actually appreciated.

These are the only friends we buy for, we only buy for close family otherwise.

PrettyKittyKat wrote: »

I think joint presents are fine if it is something they both will use and I usually spend slighlty more than single ones. So for example, if you usually spend £10 per person and want to cut back for a joint gift, maybe spend £15? Although saying that it is not about the cost it is about the thought behind the gift and how useful it is to the recipient.

Things like movie night hampers, chocolates hampers (if both like chocolates!), fancy tea and biscuit hampers, gardening hampers... hmm.. I am seeing a theme of hampers! haha

Yes exactly that - last year we picked a gift each which (we thought) was really thoughtful but they were expensive, so trying to get as thoughtful a gift, without breaking the bank. I've been looking at the Yuletide forum and got some great ideas!

Buzzybee90

Pollycat wrote: »

Why not go the whole hog and suggest to them that both couples don't bother buying presents at all.

I always think it very sad when charity shops are full of unwanted Christmas gifts after 27th December.

I wonder just how many gifts are actually appreciated.

I must say I've never even returned and swapped a gift. My family are very good at telling me what they'd like so everyone wins.

BarryBlue

Pollycat wrote: »

Why not go the whole hog and suggest to them that both couples don't bother buying presents at all.

I always think it very sad when charity shops are full of unwanted Christmas gifts after 27th December.

I wonder just how many gifts are actually appreciated.

I do agree. We have finally agreed with the last few people that we shall not be exchanging presents this Christmas. So we are finally free of the tedious annual chore of trying to find something suitable and feigning gratitude for receiving something pointless in return.

When there are no kids involved, and where Christmas has no meaning beyond an extravagant spendfest, it is quite liberating to shake off the shackles of it all. It may be 'bah humbug' but it is better than the annual pretence.

maman

Pollycat wrote: »

Why not go the whole hog and suggest to them that both couples don't bother buying presents at all.

I always think it very sad when charity shops are full of unwanted Christmas gifts after 27th December.

I wonder just how many gifts are actually appreciated.

BarryBlue wrote: »

I do agree. We have finally agreed with the last few people that we shall not be exchanging presents this Christmas. So we are finally free of the tedious annual chore of trying to find something suitable and feigning gratitude for receiving something pointless in return.

When there are no kids involved, and where Christmas has no meaning beyond an extravagant spendfest, it is quite liberating to shake off the shackles of it all. It may be 'bah humbug' but it is better than the annual pretence.

That's exactly where I stand on the matter now. Only gifts we buy are for children. I'd rather spend time with friends than buy 'stuff' for the sake of it.


OP, if (as you said) money is tight and you can't think what to get them, why are you bothering?