How do I move on?

Rosco32

raven83 wrote: »

Well that is positive, set yourself goals and then you have things to aim for and not spending all your time dwelling and feeling sad.

Yes, goals do seem like a good idea, and it should help stop me dwelling on the past and feeling sorry for myself!

Rosco32

It still really hurts today, don't know why I was expecting to feel any better after a sleepless night. I wish I could get this out of my head why is the human body such a nightmare. I wish I could stop feeling sorry for myself and going over things over and over again. I feel like I could sleep for months....

duchy

Rosco32 wrote: »

Ha ha yes you are right, just need to find the punch bag, that should help a lot!! I also want to do a 10k charity run next year so plenty of time for practice now 😃

Join a running group- possibly a women only one ?

Endorphins and female support in one

One day at a time and keep busy.

You'll soon start to have better days and find the situation isn't invading every thought every moment-if you then get a bad day - remember you've already had good days and will again. In time the better days start to outnumber the bad and then you suddenly realize something has made you laugh out loud or you've not thought about him for a whole day and you realize you really are starting to heal.

DUKE

Roco, I promise you that one day you will wake up & feel good about yourself again xxx

The gym's a great idea!

You could always try writing down your feelings too, save bottling things up.

Rosco32

Thanks guys :-)

his_missus

He may feel ready to be friends because he has had more time to deal with the break-up. By that I mean he'd probably been thinking about breaking up with you long before he actually did. He's had time to think about things, he probably planned his immediate future and what he was going to do where as you haven't had that time. You sound like, whilst you were aware things were rocky, you weren't aware he wanted to split up.


You did the right thing telling him you couldn't see him because it's painful. You need to give yourself time, however much time that may be. Stop thinking you should be over him already, 10 years is a long time together, there is no exact time scale.


it took me 6 months to "get over" my ex after 4 years together. My best friend on the other hand, was ready to move on after just a few weeks.


Try to busy yourself, rekindle old friendships (we almost always drop a few friends when in a relationship for no reason), throw yourself into a hobby, allow yourself a bit of time to mope, then make yourself smile and be happy.


Take care of yourself.

caprikid1

I am in the same situation but we are still in the same house till her accomodation is sorted and as we have two children and a proposed 50/50 child care split plus cirumstance will mean I will see her daily.

Rosco32

Thank you his missus, you are correct it's probably like you said. My ex is a genuinely really nice guy so know that he wouldn't of done this on purpose. He said he felt like he was between a rock and a hard place and should not have agreed to see me until Ive dealt with everything. I'm considering taking some time off work so I can sort my head out. There are many old friendships I should and will rekindle and I want to do happy things and be in happy places as that can only be a good thing can't it?

Caprikid1 - sorry to hear you are going through the same its so difficult isn't it. I hope you find the strength to get through it. All I keep telling myself is I'm still alive and things can't get any worse right now.