what to do with all the furniture etc?

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hi guys
I am after a bit of advice/help please
basically,my dad who is 79 and who is on his own,since mum passed away in June had a stroke a few months ago,and has been in hospital ever since,it has taken his left side and according to the physios it is very unlikely there will be any improvement as he had various other things wrong and had to keep being taken from the rehabilitation place back to hospital which hindered his physio.
he can't do anything for himself,not even get out of bed,so upon doctor/social services recommendation he has to go to a nursing home,which he is fine about as he understands he can't manage at all.
he lives in a 3 bed housing association house and a little savings.I am an only child so it falls to me to empty the house of all the furniture,I work full time and don't live in the town the house is in.I was going to just go and get personal stuff,stuff dad will need,tv for his room etc,then get a house clearance company in.
apart from loading it into a van and taking it to the local furniture saleroom(we are not talking antiques here)that is my only option as far as I can see........but its then finding the time to go and sort all that and get it there.
there is the ebay/freecycle route but then you have to be hanging about for people to turn up and collect stuff.
i understand house clearance companies you pay them and they just remove everything
there is a help for heroes charity warehouse in town and if you donate the stuff to them they will clear it....pressumably free?
are there companies or whatever that come in,price it up,give you the money and take the stuff away or am i being naive?it just seems a shame as dad has very little savings that I am just giving away 79 years worth of his stuff for nothing
any bright ideas folk?
I am after a bit of advice/help please
basically,my dad who is 79 and who is on his own,since mum passed away in June had a stroke a few months ago,and has been in hospital ever since,it has taken his left side and according to the physios it is very unlikely there will be any improvement as he had various other things wrong and had to keep being taken from the rehabilitation place back to hospital which hindered his physio.
he can't do anything for himself,not even get out of bed,so upon doctor/social services recommendation he has to go to a nursing home,which he is fine about as he understands he can't manage at all.
he lives in a 3 bed housing association house and a little savings.I am an only child so it falls to me to empty the house of all the furniture,I work full time and don't live in the town the house is in.I was going to just go and get personal stuff,stuff dad will need,tv for his room etc,then get a house clearance company in.
apart from loading it into a van and taking it to the local furniture saleroom(we are not talking antiques here)that is my only option as far as I can see........but its then finding the time to go and sort all that and get it there.
there is the ebay/freecycle route but then you have to be hanging about for people to turn up and collect stuff.
i understand house clearance companies you pay them and they just remove everything
there is a help for heroes charity warehouse in town and if you donate the stuff to them they will clear it....pressumably free?
are there companies or whatever that come in,price it up,give you the money and take the stuff away or am i being naive?it just seems a shame as dad has very little savings that I am just giving away 79 years worth of his stuff for nothing
any bright ideas folk?
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When my mother died we had to dispose of the furniture she had acquired with all my childhood memories. We eventually found a charity which would take certain items they thought might sell but the majority of things like sideboards and wardrobes went to the tip.
Personally I wouldn't contemplate loading a van myself, because if when you get to the saleroom they reject most of what's on board, you are then left with a 'what next?' situation. It's very unlikely you'd be able to take what was left to the local tip, because most don't allow vans over a certain size in, and even smaller ones may have to be pre-registered.
It must be very hard for you, but tbh the best thing you can do to protect Dad's savings is probably get the place cleared ASAP so that you can give notice to the HA.
One thing you might find useful, unless you have a partner or good friend who would help with all this, is to consider using a professional de-cluttering service local to your Dad. Having someone experienced helping with the sorting out might save a lot of time, and they may also be able to advise on the best places for disposal.
No doubt they made a profit out of it, as, although the furniture was old, and of no value to anyone, some of the contents would have been saleable.
But, I don't begrudge them a penny of the £350.
The stuff had to be cleared, I had a lot on my plate at the time so couldn't do it all myself. So I paid for a service and they did an excellent job.
While they were doing it, I went off and did something else, as I didn't want to see my parents stuff carted off.
But it was the right thing to do at the time. I did keep some of their nicer stuff, which I bought home with me. But over the years I have gone through it, and only kept the things that have a real sentimental value. The rest I re homed by eBay and I'm happy that other people are now enjoying them
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She was very surprised at what he took to sell - some of it she would have dumped on local tip.
A skip would be your cheapest option but you would have to load it yourself. You would need to break the large stuff down so it could all fit in and go in one load, to keep the cost down.
If the house is in a built up area, you could put a notice in a shop window saying you are having a garage sale. Get everything out on the front, and ask for offers. You would still have to dispose of what's left.
Ilona
What it may grow to in time, I know not what.
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As for the furniture contents, tip out a drawer at a time, take out anything of value and anything you want to take home. Split the rest into donate, recycle or bin piles. 10 minutes maximum per drawer.
It may seem brutal binning your dads stuff but as with most people, most of it was probably unnoticed by him for the last 20 years.