Tantrum help

SmlSave

My lovely 3 year old has started having huge screaming, hitting tantrums. I'm trying to come up with ideas to cope with this and wondered what others do?

Kaye1

Literally nothing. No eye contact, no interaction, move away if possible, if you need to hold onto them, just turn your body away.


At the start, tantrums lasted a good few minutes but when mine realised they would get nothing- nothing from me until they had finished behaving in that way, they soon didn't bother.


I have been known to walk from the playground with my child dragging behind me because I totally carry on as normal and she was trying the 'throwing herself down phase.'


Toddlers want 100% of your attention 100% of the time! If you ignore the behaviour, they soon give up! Good luck!

double_mummy

with my big one i got down a threw a tantrum he stopped looked at me for a few seconds and then has never had another one

with my daughter the me doing it didnt work but the ignoring did

with the hitting i would move them away from what they were doing sit them down and say 'we do not hit' and then ignore give them a minute or 2 get them to repeat the phrase and say sorry with a cuddle

DigForVictory

Maybe out of the park, but are we 100% certain there's no medical reason? An ear infection can turn a sweetie in a full-throttle hellion with nothing easy to see.
Likewise has anyone said "so when are you getting a little brother or sister then?" - three yos are *not* rational human beings.

Other than that +1 on ignoring noise & being consistently against hitting. Same technique for both parents & all caregivers, relations etc.