Income Support for a Couple aged 17

Bennifred

Sorry you're having to deal with this, Lozz - must be very stressful They'll grow up one day........

von

I'm sure they'll realise the mistake they've made in treating you as they did when they realise how little they have to live on. The TV programmes about people on benefits tend to paint a false picture regarding the financial aspect when people are solely reliant in benefits, unless they have another means of undeclared income of course or they are used to living on a small amount on income. I think your daughter is going to have a huge wake up call!

TELLIT01

Given you explanation of the current situation I suspect they would be treated as estranged and in Full Time Education (assuming the course is more than 12 hours per week).

epitome

I imagine you feel if you turn off the funds you might lose your daughter. But be careful they conveniently don't tell you when IS starts to pay them.

They shouldn't need your support they should be using the Short Term Benefit Advance to get money while they wait.

If they are both treated as estranged and both remain in full time education, the rate will be £86 a week.

And when they get their hundreds of pounds in arears are they going to pay you back?

fabforty

My comment is not benefit's related, but I just wanted to add that I think that the decision as to whether or not a door remains open to her, needs to be yours as well - not your husband and son. I'm not excusing her behaviour towards you (she might have been a total little !!!! for all I know), but that doesn't mean that you can't forgive in time. When this all goes belly up (which it will), she will need her family more than ever, especially as her partner has already been disowned by her family because of who/what she is. I'm not suggesting that you let her walk all over you - I would insist on ground rules and major changes in her attitude and behaviour - but closing the door on a teenager who is already dealing with a difficult situation....might be worth reconsidering. Let her stew in the real world, definitely a good idea, but do you really want her out of your life for good?

Lozz

Thanks again all, I do really appreciate it.


So it seems they may get the higher rate of £80 odd per week, she has been pestering her dad for money, my number has been changed because of the abuse I received. The social worker involved has been lovely, she has said not to send money but to send food and phone top ups so that is what we will do. She will also let us know when the IS comes through so seeing a light at the end of the tunnel here.


Fabforty that is my decision as well, the last 3 weeks without them has shown me what this household could be like, we have her twin brother plus a disabled non-independent 20 year old son and yet, even given that, life has been so much calmer without her here. Her twin is adamant she comes in the door and he goes because of everything that has happened and I'm not risking that for anyone, cos he's lovely!


If (when) it goes belly up they have only themselves to blame, neither of them are used to the frugal lifestyle!


Thanks for the support everybody.


Lozz x

fabforty

Ok, In that case I sincerely hope that all of our predictions are wrong, and that they actually can make a go of it. Stranger things have happened.

pipkin71

Lozz wrote: »

Thank you so much for the replies everyone, I am grateful.


Unfortunately it's a complicated situation, in that firstly they are both girls. DD's partner's parents refused to accept their relationship so she left home, unfortunately we felt we had no alternative but to offer a home. AFAIK nobody is receiving CB for her.


I asked her to enquire at college as to financial support for travel and the college apparently filled their heads with ideas of benefits and bursaries etc. Cue they wanted to move out. I told them the only way this would happen is if I said I was kicking them out and no way was I prepared to do that. Thereafter DD became so vile to me that eventually DH and DS threw them out. Unfortunately there is no open door due to the way DD treated me.


We are doing nothing but what SS have told us we have to, which is to support her to the tune of IS until she has sorted out what she has to. I was confused as the single/couple rate appears to be the same.


It appears that green grass is slowly becoming a nasty muddy colour already. I can only hope life lessons are being learned the hard way.


Thanks again everyone.


Lozz x


Edit to add they have no chance of a tenancy at all, they are in council B&B and apparently looking to be there for a long while yet!

I hope things work out for all of you, Lozz and that, in time, you can rebuild the relationship with your daughter.

A friend of my daughters is currently living with us as he was made homeless and he will need to explore all of his options. The YMCA are hopefully going to help him with regards housing. Would something like this be possible for your daughter and her partner?