Not a good lesson!

hollycupcake

This happened a few months ago but DS brought it up again today so I wanted to get a couple of opinions.

At the end of May last year DS had his yr 6 SATs. They finished on the Thursday and the teachers had a planned a party for the kids on the Friday. They were told on the Thurs afternoon that they were NOT allowed to bring in phones or iPads or anything like that for the party. DS is a well behaved kid, does as he's told and leaves his phone at home. His friend J also does. They get to school and "everyone" else in the class has brought in either a phone or a tablet/games console. The teacher then proceeds to tell them that, as so many of them brought things in, they were now allowed to play with them! DS and friend J did as they were told but ended up missing out.

Needless to say DS was massively miffed when he got home. I know it's a tiny issue in the grand scheme of things but it's not a great advert for doing what the teacher tells you!

Was it unfair??

meritaten

Well, it was a good lesson in life - this teacher is a coward! why weren't all phones/tablets confiscated?
I bet that teachers life is now hell on earth - nobody is ever going to listen to them. your child kept to the rules -and will learn that generally it IS best to do so. despite this one incident.

Janepig

I assume as this happened in year 6 OP that your DS is now in a different school? If so he's probably glad!

DD had a similar sounding teacher in the last few months of year six (she's just moved up to comp) who would threaten the naughty children in DD's class with all sorts but never ever carried through her threats. Consequently the kids never behaved. DD looks back with no respect at all for this teacher. The other year six teacher is much stricter, and DD still says how much she liked her and respected her (and even misses her).

DD went on a five day school trip in year six and none of the kids were allowed any "tech" with them and that was complied with by all. It was made clear that any phones, ipods, etc... would be confiscated and given back on the last day. Which is as it should be (imo). However I was annoyed that we as parents were told that if we wanted to know if the kids were okay (and obviously we would have had a call if they weren't) then we could contact the school who were in daily touch with the camp. However, some of the parents who are cronies with the teachers who went were having regular texts from the teachers to say that their children were okay and what they were doing, etc.... That really upset me because I'd love to have heard from DD but obviously accepted that I couldn't.

Jx

Spendless

I think I'm more intrigued as to why he has fetched it up now, since he must have moved to another school. Something preying on his mind or is it a question in pshe?

(My DD is the same age, just gone into yr7)

hollycupcake

Spendless wrote: »

I think I'm more intrigued as to why he has fetched it up now, since he must have moved to another school. Something preying on his mind or is it a question in pshe?

(My DD is the same age, just gone into yr7)

Yes he's now moved up to high school. It cropped up today because he was telling me that the boy in his class who got star of the week this week is the lad who has managed to get himself 3 detentions since the start of September! My DS is not one for injustices and frequently brings these sorts of things to my attention!

hollycupcake

Janepig wrote: »

I assume as this happened in year 6 OP that your DS is now in a different school? If so he's probably glad!

DD had a similar sounding teacher in the last few months of year six (she's just moved up to comp) who would threaten the naughty children in DD's class with all sorts but never ever carried through her threats. Consequently the kids never behaved. DD looks back with no respect at all for this teacher. The other year six teacher is much stricter, and DD still says how much she liked her and respected her (and even misses her).

DD went on a five day school trip in year six and none of the kids were allowed any "tech" with them and that was complied with by all. It was made clear that any phones, ipods, etc... would be confiscated and given back on the last day. Which is as it should be (imo). However I was annoyed that we as parents were told that if we wanted to know if the kids were okay (and obviously we would have had a call if they weren't) then we could contact the school who were in daily touch with the camp. However, some of the parents who are cronies with the teachers who went were having regular texts from the teachers to say that their children were okay and what they were doing, etc.... That really upset me because I'd love to have heard from DD but obviously accepted that I couldn't.

Jx

That would've annoyed me too. It the inconsistency of it. Make a rule by all means, but please stick with it!

Spendless

hollycupcake wrote: »

Yes he's now moved up to high school. It cropped up today because he was telling me that the boy in his class who got star of the week this week is the lad who has managed to get himself 3 detentions since the start of September! My DS is not one for injustices and frequently brings these sorts of things to my attention!

Are they at a school that gives detentions out for just about anything though? My kids are.

DD got a lunchtime one, for putting some work at the front of her exercise book instead of at the back. She'd cut her leg at the time and was dabbing it with a per towel so didn't have her whole attention on what was being said. She also got a break-time one, from her form teacher for not having got a parent to sign her planner, This was the weekend me and husband were ill with bad ear infections and signing our name wasn't a priority in our minds. They also get them for any missing pe kit or forgetting their tie, that sort of stuff, so yes mine could easily be the child with the most merit points for their work, whilst clocking up detentions for being forgetful or disorganised over other stuff.

hollycupcake

Spendless wrote: »

Are they at a school that gives detentions out for just about anything though? My kids are.

DD got a lunchtime one, for putting some work at the front of her exercise book instead of at the back. She'd cut her leg at the time and was dabbing it with a per towel so didn't have her whole attention on what was being said. She also got a break-time one, from her form teacher for not having got a parent to sign her planner, This was the weekend me and husband were ill with bad ear infections and signing our name wasn't a priority in our minds. They also get them for any missing pe kit or forgetting their tie, that sort of stuff, so yes mine could easily be the child with the most merit points for their work, whilst clocking up detentions for being forgetful or disorganised over other stuff.

To be honest, yes they give out detentions for a lot of the things you mentioned (including the planner thing, which really annoys me!!), but the lad in question just didn't bother to do his homework on three occasions! Even if his other work was good I'd like to think that he wouldn't be rewarded for lack of homework when there were plenty of kids who did all theirs, and there school work was good too.

balletshoes

my DD doesn't even tell me these days when she's got a schooltime detention, like Spendless' kids school, its for minor stuff. She is also one who gets letters and postcards sent home from her teachers, praising her standard of work and improvement in test results etc. Getting schooltime detention doesn't appear to have any correlation to being disruptive or disrespectful in class etc.

Spendless

balletshoes wrote: »

my DD doesn't even tell me these days when she's got a schooltime detention,

I can log on the parent portal of their school website and it tells me, so they can't lie- well actually they could, as it's had a re-vamp and the passwords are not currently working - but shhhhhhh don't tell my kids.;)

DS who is in yr10, says his sister keeps getting detentions because she is dopey enough to draw attention to what she's done wrong 'sir/miss, I did this work wrong/forgot to do this' He said she should have just nose dived into the rucksack looking for the planner for long enough for teacher to be bored of waiting and just done the work again at the back.

shegirl

hollycupcake wrote: »

Yes he's now moved up to high school. It cropped up today because he was telling me that the boy in his class who got star of the week this week is the lad who has managed to get himself 3 detentions since the start of September! My DS is not one for injustices and frequently brings these sorts of things to my attention!

Well,it's star of the week not star of the month or term.


Maybe this lad, who had previously had 3 detentions, actually buckled down and had an unusually good week making him the star of the week for such improvement.


Previously having detentions does not mean you can't end up getting star of the week at some point. That would be daft and unfair