gift thanks

rach_k

I think it's rude not to send thank you cards for wedding gifts if the wedding was quite formal. If it was more informal, a thank you in person/on the phone/email etc is fine.

However, I also think it's rude to draw attention to somebody else's lack of manners, perhaps even more so, so I wouldn't say or do anything and would just try to get over it!

Lavendyr

We made a note of what everyone gave us and hand-wrote thank you cards to everyone who gave us a gift. It took a while but we felt it was the right thing to do. However we have given gifts at many weddings where we have not received thank yous of any kind. We also gave a gift at one where the thank you card arrived with the Christmas card - the year after the wedding!

However I agree with rach_k that while it may be rude not to send thank you cards, it is also rude to point out someone elses' failings. I'd just move on.

rosie-lee

Faith177 wrote: »

I've been married nearly 18 months now won't it be a bit off?

It's kind of a double edge sword isn't it? If I don't send them I feel guilty if I send them now it might just confuse people

If you feel guilty, get them done written and sent. It's off your mind then.

People understand that life gets in the way, certainly if people have known your mum was ill.

I can't be the only one who has things at the top of the to-do list for month and even years!!

Clearly some people don't give them second thought, either sending or receiving them. You could just send to those you know might appreciate one.

Either way I am sure it won't have spoiled the lovely day they spent with you.

newthrift

We got a thank you on the day but then on the first wedding anniversary all guests got an envelope to open from the bride and groom with a selection of pictures of them on the wedding day and honeymoon including a note on the back to say how they spent the money/used the gift and then some photos of me and OH on the day, picture of the bride & groom, group photo and anther personalised one. Maybe they will do something similar