gift thanks

aggypanthus

Brides past and future, whats the protocol for thanking guests for gifts?
One family member didnt send any, and I thought this was shamefully bad mannered.
It looks like another person may not be sending any, its been 3 mnths.I will give benefit of doubt for now.
we gave substantial cash gifts and it really niggles me.

spookyhelen

dont give to recieve in the future, then you will never be niggled again. Its rude of them not to thank you but do you need to hear it or see it ( in writing )? Ask for it back if they didnt deserve it!

ruby_eskimo

I've seen a few people just post generic "thanks" on facebook. We've already decided that we're going to buy postcards on our honeymoon as thank you cards and write them on the plan coming back. Even if people don't give us a present, it's nice just to thank them for coming to celebrate with us.

aggypanthus

spookyhelen wrote: »

dont give to recieve in the future, then you will never be niggled again. Its rude of them not to thank you but do you need to hear it or see it ( in writing )? Ask for it back if they didnt deserve it![/QUOTE

OH YES, I shall ask for it back, if only I'd thought of that myself:D

Or maybe profer the cheque, stare them in the eyes and demand SAY THANK YOU

aggypanthus

Ruby thats a nice idea.

ognum

spookyhelen wrote: »

dont give to recieve in the future, then you will never be niggled again. Its rude of them not to thank you but do you need to hear it or see it ( in writing )? Ask for it back if they didnt deserve it!

I don't think there is any evidence that the OP only gave to receive a thank you and your reply is atypical response from someone who doesn't understand how important it is for people to be acknowledged.

I have read many times here how brides consider it rude that people don't reply to wedding invitations, how is this any different? It is important for people to respond to invitations but also to acknowledge gifts.

brightonman123

if verbal thanks given on the day (along with the FREE FOOD/DRINK ?), isn't that enough?


May be NICE to get a TY note, but not essential. The day is for the lucky couple.

Ruby_Roo

I personally think its bad manners not to thank people who have bought you a gift - and given that, at weddings, gifts are invariably left on a table rather than personally handed to a couple I think a written note is doubly important.

I know the happy couple and/or their families pay for food, drinks and a day out but I wouldn't go to that trouble just so I get a gift in return, I want the company of those people on my wedding day and any gift people choose to give is a bonus and deserves a proper acknowledgement.

Ruby I think that's a lovely idea - and I might adopt it for our thank you notes also

CH27

I think it's incredibly rude not to send thankyou cards for wedding gifts.

74jax

I would ask if they got the money in the card you gave them as you hadn't heard, maybe act as though you're concerned they didn't receive it.

I had photos taken with all my guests, or groups of friends, and had a photo booth, we printed photos of us with them and wrote individual thanks to everyone, not a generic thanks for the gift etc.

Islandmaid

We got married recently and chose our fav photo of us together on the day and got some thank you cards printed online for very little and wrote individual thanks in each card - in fairness alot of our guests gave us their gifts before the day, so it was easier to make a note of who had given what, but I think it,s just a nice touch to show you appreciate their efforts.

However, each to their own - we,re in our late 40's and younger couples and their guests are much more IT savvy, so a facebbok/twitter thank you may be the new thank you note