Mum's dog bit my LO

theoretica

How long is she likely to be unwell and unable to care for the dogs properly?

There are charities which will help find volunteers to assist with dog walking etc -the Cinnamon trust is one. Maybe muzzles would be a good idea, a latch on the door certainly would, even perhaps caging in the garden.

Rev

Solsol wrote: »

What a ridiculous comment my mother took in a dog known to not like children at the same time that she was expecting the arrival of two grandchildren? I suppose I'm the selfish one for thinking this is slightly unreasonable?!

Did you take into consideration wether your extended family liked or disliked kids before you get pregnant? Of course you didn't because it's your life. And you quite rightly make choices based on what you want. Just as your mother has done with the dog. She wanted the dog, you said yourself before she was ill she would meet you elsewhere. So why should she take into consideration children that rarely visit when deciding to get the dog or not? You don't live with your mother. They're not her children. So she shouldn't be expected to make descisons around those children.


What is unreasonable is your family thinking you should just go 'oh well' and be okay with this and carry on taking your child there.

I have two dogs. No kids. And I have to say if this was one of my dogs I would be absolutely devastated. I'd absolutely take measures to ensure 100% this couldn't happen again. Be that baby gates. Doors with locks, I'd also get the dog checked by a vet and behaviourist in. There's absolutely no way at all I would allow that dog to be around children in future. At all.


And I think you're absolutely right in not taking your LO back to the house unless the dog is safely locked in a different room. Or removed entirely from the house whilst you visit.

Peter333

Yep, if I were you OP, I would not go back there while that dog is there. My children are too important to me.

RuthnJasper

jaydeeuk1 wrote: »

Get the kid to Feed the dog lots of chocolate and grapes. Won't be a problem in a few days.

Presumably you are aware that death for a dog in this situation will be drawn out, humiliating, and extremely agonising?

Not your finest hour, Jaydee.

Peter333

jaydeeuk1 wrote: »

Get the kid to Feed the dog lots of chocolate and grapes. Won't be a problem in a few days.

I am assuming this is a joke right?

j.e.j.

I actually had a work mate who gave her dog an Easter Egg each year. The dog was like a substitute child for her.

I didn't realise till relatively recently that chocolate can cause internal bleeding in dogs. Not sure about grapes, not that I've ever fed them to a dog anyway.

atush

Solsol wrote: »

What a ridiculous comment my mother took in a dog known to not like children at the same time that she was expecting the arrival of two grandchildren? I suppose I'm the selfish one for thinking this is slightly unreasonable?!

I agree, that comment was ridiculous.

Ban your mother from seeing the children until she re-homes the dog. It isn't safe, and she isn't looking after it properly.

FBaby

You don't feel that the dog being locked in another room is safe enough, that is your choice, and it is your right not to come with your son. Your mother seems to accept that choice.

However, you then turn into a sulky teenager by saying that this means she puts her dog before her grandchild. I don't see it this way. She probably adores her dog, and although I don't really understand it, I know that it is common for some people, especially older, even more especially single older people to love their dog as much as they would a child. Getting rid of the dog probably feels like having to give up her child to her (however ridiculous it might seem to you).

It therefore doesn't make sense that she should live missing her dog desperately every day, just so that she can see her grandson once in a whilst knowing that this restriction is only temporary because when she is well enough, she could come and see your grandson herself anyway.

What you are asking her to do is disproportionate to the other solutions available that would ensure your son is safe.

fizz

Why oh why didn't you lock the dog away yourself? It beggar's belief that you knew the dog had an issue with kids and you didn't do something about it. If your mom was going to have a hissy that you wanted the dog moved to another room, then you should have left.
Did the dog break the skin of your child?

HPoirot

jaydeeuk1 wrote: »

Get the kid to Feed the dog lots of chocolate and grapes. Won't be a problem in a few days.

Wasn't a problem to my dog, any chocolate in the house and she'd be on it before you even knew it was there. Chocolate, cakes, etc, had to be kept in a high cupboard as she was terrible for her sweet tooth.