Advice required re.student daughter allowance

Dolce75

Thanks Mojisola. That makes perfect sense. Now my step daughter is 'adult' I hope she will begin to form her own opinions and be less influenced by her mother, in terms of her father.

pleasedelete

tuition fee alone is £9000- wont the money cover part of that?

Armorica

It's a trust fund for university. Let her have the money. If you're not comfortable giving her the cash; then pay a year or two of her fees so she starts her adult life with less debt than many of her peers. Or a car, computer etc.

Similarly, it's potentially entirely reasonable for her not to want a part-time job especially as it's a science degree. Certainly during term time; she should, however, be looking for summer jobs/placements to build work experience.

Mojisola

Armorica wrote: »

It's a trust fund for university. Let her have the money.

The daughter already has the money.

Annie_Elisabeth

She has the trust fund for the reasons it was saved.
She is 18 now and as rightly suggested needs to mature, realise her mother's bitterness is not her own and to even have a little shock into real world costs and living (if she's at home it's not going to leave her homeless/starving to not have extra money).
I would put aside 1/2 of what you were paying as maintenance each month (if this is affordable) and should she need anything in an emergency the money is there.
Working an 8 hour shift on a saturday or sunday wouldn't do her any harm either.
As for the ex, she is sadly still bitter after all this time, but that needs to be her issue not yours or your husbands.
i would contact his daughter directly as suggested, ignore the ex (you know it's not true and just manipulation), encourage her to find a little independence