Son not eating proper food..

onlyroz

Toto wrote: »

If the child doesn't eat much then allow around half an hour after everyone else has finished for him to pick at whatever is left after that it is put away and gone. Nothing else until the next meal. No anger, no punishment just a simple reminder that the next meal will be at x o clock.

My daughter will often declare herself full after a few mouthfuls but will then continue to pick at it for ages until it's mostly gone.

olgadapolga

I really wouldn't worry about your little one not eating. He won't starve himself.

I think that a lot of children go through stages of not eating. All of mine have and come through, the other side intact. I just used to offer them food, if they ate fine, if they didn't then that was fine as well. Making a fuss about it is the worst thing you can do. As far as I was concerned, as long as they were drinking then it wasn't a problem.

My youngest, who is now 20 months old, will occasionally kick off about silly things, especially if one of the other children has something that she hasn't - maybe he just wants the same as the rest of the family? My daughter also had a complete rage last night as her high chair wasn't close enough to the table. As soon as we moved her, she ate all of her dinner.

My friend's son would only eat yoghurt and drink milk for two years. He's now a strapping lad, well over 6' tall and eats everything in sight.

In your shoes, I'd just keep offering him food; he'll either eat it or he won't. You are not starving him, nor will he starve. He'll get over it. As long as he's drinking I wouldn't worry too much

freebiequennie

Let him have what he eats plus one other new food that he doesn't normally eat my little one at 2.5yrs started not eating certain foods after eating everything I got v stressed about it n then refused to worry he ate loads fruit but refused veg or food touching! Now he has just turned 4 n eats much more n tries New food.

For fish fingers I make my own and buy different fish.

notanewuser

onlyroz wrote: »

No way am I going to cook separate meals for my family. I put food infront of the kids and if they don't eat it I don't give them anything else. A 2-year-old should be able to eat whatever you eat (or possibly a milder version if you're into mega-hot curries) and will not starve. Whatever you do, be consistent and try not to stress. If a meal is refused or picked at then don't make a fuss but don't replace it with anything else either. It might take a while but they'll eventually get the idea.

Not if all they've been given is carp. The OP has posted before about how poor her own diet is. If the kids don't eat with you and see you eating what you're expecting them to try - at an age when they biologically become suspicious of foods - what do you expect?!

onlyroz

notanewuser wrote: »

Not if all they've been given is carp. The OP has posted before about how poor her own diet is. If the kids don't eat with you and see you eating what you're expecting them to try - at an age when they biologically become suspicious of foods - what do you expect?!

I do think a family mealtime is important. I know people who feed their kids one thing at 5pm and then cook a separate meal for themselves at 9pm. I do not see how this can be good either socially, or to encourage your kids to be more adventurous with their diet.

JIL

I also think family meal times go a long way to helping children to be less fussy and better eaters. My eldest was fussy. He hated sliced bread, he would physically wretch if he ate it and baked bean or spaghetti sauce had to go in a dish in case it touched what else was on the plate!
I also would make different meals if I knew one child did not like something. I could choose what I wanted to eat so it did not seem fair that they couldn't.
I encouraged them to help with food preparation, this encouraged them to try different foods. I made my own chicken nuggets, fishcakes and pasta dishes. They all grew up loving fruit and veg although the veg was not always cooked.

notanewuser

JIL wrote: »

I also think family meal times go a long way to helping children to be less fussy and better eaters. My eldest was fussy. He hated sliced bread, he would physically wretch if he ate it and baked bean or spaghetti sauce had to go in a dish in case it touched what else was on the plate!
I also would make different meals if I knew one child did not like something. I could choose what I wanted to eat so it did not seem fair that they couldn't.
I encouraged them to help with food preparation, this encouraged them to try different foods. I made my own chicken nuggets, fishcakes and pasta dishes. They all grew up loving fruit and veg although the veg was not always cooked.

My DD hated bread until she was about 3. She's always refused gravy, mashed potato and she'd rather not have baked bean juice touch anything else. It's easy for me to allow that, and she's a good eater otherwise, so why not allow her that bit of control?

purpleshoes_2

InsideInsurance wrote: »

That or brother/sister-in-law's kid?

Either way, they'd just be nephew in my world. "in law" seems to be trying to create separation

I would imagine every family describes their in laws or relatives differently particularly when people marry and you get new relatives as it were.

Theres so many different situations that go on within families you cant call it, plus from the way the person posted about her nephew in law, I didnt get from the tone of her post that there was any kind of distance there.

InsideInsurance

purpleshoes wrote: »

I would imagine every family describes their in laws or relatives differently particularly when people marry and you get new relatives as it were.

Theres so many different situations that go on within families you cant call it, plus from the way the person posted about her nephew in law, I didnt get from the tone of her post that there was any kind of distance there.

Agree it does vary by family but with both my family and the wifes, both of which are very large, life is simple - your an aunt/uncle, father/mother, brother/ sister, niece/nephew, son/daughter or cousin (with cousin being the default answer when you cant be bothered to try and work out the accurate relationship).

"In law", "step", "half", "adopted" etc simply arent used in normal conversation and the only time they ever are is in anger/ to show disapproval.

Kayalana99

InsideInsurance wrote: »

"In law", "step", "half", "adopted" etc simply arent used in normal conversation and the only time they ever are is in anger/ to show disapproval.

What works for one does not work for another, I have a half brothers and sisters , 2 step sisters and my partner has 2 siblings that are adopted. Neither of us have any anger or disapproval, but my partner often says his adopted sister and brother and I often refer to my step sister as my step sister ...maybe there is no need to add that extra word in but it's part of normal conversation for me. Granted I don't always call them my step / half sister but in a spilt family that is just how it is for me.

ANYWAY, sorry for not getting back I have been a bit under the weather and really busy with work.

I don't think that anything anyone has posted I haven't tried...the only thing I was avoiding was the put in front of them and if they don't eat it they don't get ...hence the post. I made a *bit* of a success as I decided for lunch I would do him something similar to what he normally ate but not the normal chicken dippers and waffles I gave him a birdeye chicken battered thing (I've tried proper chicken no luck there) and some small potatoes which he ate...so it's something.

I don't make a fuss over meal times I just put things in front of him and leave him to it, I have tried just adding things onto his normal meals and he just chucks it on the floor before he starts eating lol, I've done eggs beans and toast every day for a week and nothing he just eats the toast as people have said if he keeps seeing the same thing he will eat it as well (The reason I didn't give him toast that morning is yes nothing wrong with toast but he would of just ate the toast and nothing else so was trying to get him to try something else) ...he wouldn't know if he likes it because he won't try it.

Not really sure what else to do but just let him eat his chicken dippers.

P.s Our diet is improving but as my other threads didn't have the best up bringing me and my DS2 had pasta for lunch... DS1 didn't even try it ofc.