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Slave to saving

I can't take a break from saving and it's annoying me to no end.
I'm not in a bad situation and have a fairly good amount of money that I have saved for the last few years.

I have always been a saver since I left school. I can't help but put money away in case of an emergency. (what emergency I don't know)

I have been saving for my wedding and now I need to part with a good chunk of my cash. I should be thinking "great, it's what I have been saving for, this is ok to spend" but instead I feel guilty even thinking of dipping into it.

I think it gets to me as all my money is in one account and I love seeing the numbers increase after payday. Perhaps I should have saved my wedding money in a different account rather than lump it together, but I was getting the best interest rate on this account at the time.

Does anyone else feel like this? what's a good balance between saving/ spending? Can someone please comment and tell me how stupid I am to feel guilty for spending my own money :rotfl:
:beer: Savings £18,000 / £25,000 :beer:
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  • kidmugsy
    kidmugsy Posts: 12,709 Forumite
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    Can someone please comment and tell me how stupid I am to feel guilty for spending my own money.

    If you were going to spend it on a house, or motorbike, or boat I'd applaud. Even on a cellar of fine wine.

    But I take a dim view of the modern craze for extravagant weddings, so I can't help you there I'm afraid.
    Free the dunston one next time too.
  • Got a house/car but no boat I'm afraid lol.
    I'm not looking to spend my whole amount on the wedding, only about £7k. But I still feel horrible parting with the cash.
    :beer: Savings £18,000 / £25,000 :beer:
  • ramjug
    ramjug Posts: 112 Forumite
    Its strange, i am in a same boat as you (not getting married though) but i love my balance going up every payday. One part of me says that i have saved enough and should enjoy more but dont know unable to do that. i save like 16-1700£/month which i think is too much and i should spend more.

    In nutshell: You are not alone mate
  • ramjug wrote: »
    Its strange, i am in a same boat as you (not getting married though) but i love my balance going up every payday. One part of me says that i have saved enough and should enjoy more but dont know unable to do that. i save like 16-1700£/month which i think is too much and i should spend more.

    In nutshell: You are not alone mate

    Wow great savings there! Well done :T

    I know I should relax and enjoy more but I still worry. Glad I'm not the only one.
    :beer: Savings £18,000 / £25,000 :beer:
  • atush
    atush Posts: 18,731 Forumite
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    I have been saving 500 a month for a number of years now, meant to buy the OH a nd I new cars (for cash not on finance).

    His car is 14, and mine is 10 lol and I still have the money.

    So you aren't alone, but you will part with the money- unless you are planning to stay single lol
  • atush
    atush Posts: 18,731 Forumite
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    ramjug wrote: »
    Its strange, i am in a same boat as you (not getting married though) but i love my balance going up every payday. One part of me says that i have saved enough and should enjoy more but dont know unable to do that. i save like 16-1700£/month which i think is too much and i should spend more.

    In nutshell: You are not alone mate


    Are you saving that 1600-1700 in cash?

    The 500 I am savings isn't all i save, just cash savings. I save more in investments and pensions. Have you considered these for your savings? Better for longer term goals (although had I known I would not part with my savings for the car I would have invested the money lol)
  • "The king was in the counting house, counting out his money".
    In my case, it was the queen in the counting house, and it became a very lonely place.....

    And congrats. money_maker on your forthcoming wedding.
  • xylophone
    xylophone Posts: 45,963 Forumite
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    No pockets in shrouds?:)
  • huummm, my first thought was, are you sure about getting married!
    Don't wait for your ship to come in, swim out to it.
  • suebfg
    suebfg Posts: 404 Forumite
    Hi, I'm an avid saver too but a tricky situation a few years back taught me the value of having savings to draw down on - money can help in certain, but not all, situations.
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