Can you fall in love after just coming out of a long-term relationship?

Buzzybee90

Of course you can.

However, a number of friends of mine have recently come out of long-term relationships, some with children, and within a few weeks they're professing love to another man.

Are we more likely to find love after just ending a relationship? I don't think this guys are rebounds, as such.

duchy

You could only say if all relationships ended in the same way and the personalities involved were all the same.

For some it's the right person and the right time....for others it isn't.
With your friends only time will tell but everyone is different

Alikay

I'm sure most of us know couples who have a good, enduring relationship which has started within weeks of a previous one ending, or even whilst the previous one was going on. However a rebound thing is also quite likely due to emotions being all over the place around the time of a break up, and I'd question the wisdom of any parent introducing kids to a new partner before the children have had time to come to terms with mum and dad separating.

Buzzybee90

Alikay wrote: »

I'm sure most of us know couples who have a good, enduring relationship which has started within weeks of a previous one ending, or even whilst the previous one was going on. However a rebound thing is also quite likely due to emotions being all over the place around the time of a break up, and I'd question the wisdom of any parent introducing kids to a new partner before the children have had time to come to terms with mum and dad separating.

Sadly one is just a baby.

sharnad

You can fall in love at any time

GoldenShadow

I have friends who are just not good by themselves. One had a boyfriend for 2.5 years when she was 16. Then she broke up with him and within a month had a new boyfriend. She was with him for over 4 years. Then she broke up with him, and within two months had another fella she has been with for over a year now. Another friend had a 4 year relationship. Got with someone else so broke up. That broke up after six weeks, and has now been in a year and a half long relationship with someone else.

The latter friend, I don't think she loves him at all. He adores her, and she likes him. But if something better comes along she will move on. They nearly broke up recently and she was devastated; but, only because he wasn't begging for forgiveness and had stopped doting on her. She seems to need somebody to be like that, clingy, really. I think they trick themselves into thinking they 'love' Mr X because he is a current upgrade to the proper ex. So more long term rebounds until a true upgrade comes along.

That's not to say it is always like that. My OH came out of a four year relationship, we started dating about 10 days later, and we've been together 2.5 years. I think our relationship is as genuine as they come, but many people have gone, so did you have a hand in the break up? But I didn't..!

System

I don't know, i've just recently come out of a relationship and right now i can't even contemplate dating yet alone be ready to fall in love again (in fact i could quite happily stay single for life right now, love just seems pointless and doomed to end up in heartbreak).

That's not to say it can't happen though, some people move on quicker than others (in my experience the ones who ended the relationship seem to move on quicker, possibly because they have less feelings to get over so to speak)

welfayre

Definitely, I was in a a two year relationship, split up, went for a "yes! I'm single again!" night out two weeks later and meet the love of my life who I married this year.

The previous relationship was awful for the last 3months or so so maybe that helped me move on but I certainly wasn't looking or expecting to meet someone.

ladeeda

For most, love doesn't happen often - take it when you get it

lulu_92

GoldenShadow wrote: »

I have friends who are just not good by themselves. One had a boyfriend for 2.5 years when she was 16. Then she broke up with him and within a month had a new boyfriend. She was with him for over 4 years. Then she broke up with him, and within two months had another fella she has been with for over a year now. Another friend had a 4 year relationship. Got with someone else so broke up. That broke up after six weeks, and has now been in a year and a half long relationship with someone else

This sounds like my relationship history :rotfl:

I met a boy when I was 14 and we dated until I was 17. I was single for about 10 months and started going out with someone, which lasted 4 months. That didn't work out and I soon ended up in a year long relationship with another boy. That ended and I ended up going out with my now OH quite soon after. It's been 3 years now and I've never been happier.

I'm okay on my own but I hate the dating game. I'm much happier in a long term relationship and I hope I have my happily ever after with my OH.

I think you can fall in love at any time. Towards the end of relationships feelings may change. However I worry for the kids who get introduced to new daddies more times than they've had hot dinners.

GoldenShadow

Men are like buses for me! Dated one from when I was 15-17. Then I was single until I was 19. Before I started seeing my OH I had four others texting trying to get me to go out with them :eek: yet that whole two years when no one was interested :rotfl:

A lot of my friends have had sudden influxes of messages from men when their Facebook status goes to single. I guess they are respectful when people are in relationships but pick up courage if that changes. Maybe that's why people can enter new relationships so fast.