The fam

[simon]

So yeah, since I've got to my mid 20s the family seem to have dis owned me.

They like to drink, party and have kids, there a year or so younger than me. They all rent houses and flats.

By family I mean cousins, aunties and uncle,

Just because my goals and vision is to work and buy a place, i don't drink and I ain't got kids.

They don't just abound on my, but also my parents too !

Probably because we live in what my family call a posh area. Yes I still live with parents and work hard saving for a deposit to buy my own home next year.

The family just keep away, they use to be involved when I was in my teens, when I use to drink too, but as I got older I stopped drinking and started looking for a job I enjoy and tryed new jobs and started to take money more serious and set a vision for my future.

My family just distanced themselfs from me, I got a few invites out to drink with them. But that's all. They won't come out with me for a game of pool or anything which doesn't invoke drink and the same old jokes which bore me now.

They don't bed contact me on fb, no happy birthdays nothing. I use to say it to them, we buy presents for them and get nothing back.

We no longer have any contact. I see 2 of my aunties 1 or 2 times a year.

My family is soo Negotive, they use to look at me funny when I mention I want to buy a house. They just don't / won't and carnt be arsed to take on the finance commitments. They all make big fuss about pregnancies and don't really care about a career.

Even the aunties I do see make negotive remarks about me to my parents or even about all of us because we work hard together and think big, compared to how the rest of my family does.

They won't try anything new and have no career goals.

Some just take me off fb, they never tagg me in any of the statuses when anyone in the fam is having a baby / preg, they don't wish me happy birthday or anything.

I know there different from me, but to totally disown me ? Why ?

lisawood78

What's your question?

lika_86

I think I'd probably distance myself from someone who looked down on me too.

pinkshoes

[simon] wrote: »

So yeah, since I've got to my mid 20s the family seem to have dis owned me.

They like to drink, party and have kids, there a year or so younger than me. They all rent houses and flats.

By family I mean cousins, aunties and uncle,

Just because my goals and vision is to work and buy a place, i don't drink and I ain't got kids.

They don't just abound on my, but also my parents too !

Probably because we live in what my family call a posh area. Yes I still live with parents and work hard saving for a deposit to buy my own home next year.

The family just keep away, they use to be involved when I was in my teens, when I use to drink too, but as I got older I stopped drinking and started looking for a job I enjoy and tryed new jobs and started to take money more serious and set a vision for my future.

My family just distanced themselfs from me, I got a few invites out to drink with them. But that's all. They won't come out with me for a game of pool or anything which doesn't invoke drink and the same old jokes which bore me now.

They don't bed contact me on fb, no happy birthdays nothing. I use to say it to them, we buy presents for them and get nothing back.

We no longer have any contact. I see 2 of my aunties 1 or 2 times a year.

My family is soo Negotive, they use to look at me funny when I mention I want to buy a house. They just don't / won't and carnt be arsed to take on the finance commitments. They all make big fuss about pregnancies and don't really care about a career.

Even the aunties I do see make negotive remarks about me to my parents or even about all of us because we work hard together and think big, compared to how the rest of my family does.

They won't try anything new and have no career goals.

Some just take me off fb, they never tagg me in any of the statuses when anyone in the fam is having a baby / preg, they don't wish me happy birthday or anything.

I know there different from me, but to totally disown me ? Why ?

Because some people are snobs who look down on others who don't fit into their own category. Or perhaps jealousy because it is something they do not have the ability to achieve?

I think your ambitions are great, and you will no doubt go on to achieve what you want in life and do well for yourself.

Don't let them get you down. Keep doing what you are doing, and enjoy life. Go out and meet some like minded people.

katsu

Friends are the family you choose for yourself. Just because you are related doesn't mean you have enough in common to socialise. Enjoy your friendships with other people and spend time with people doing things you enjoy like pink shoes says and let this side of your family go for now.

Good luck in achieving your home and career

Pollycat

[simon] wrote: »

I know there different from me, but to totally disown me ? Why ?

From all that you've posted (some of which I can't understand at all), you seem to have nothing at all in common with the rest of your family so why are you bothered at all?

Just because you are related to someone by blood, doesn't mean that you should get on with them.

If you're happy with your life (and you seem to have your head screwed on) carry on as you are and build friendships with people you can empathise with.

Maybe you could clarify what these sentences mean:

[simon] wrote: »

They don't just abound on my, but also my parents too !

[simon] wrote: »

They don't bed contact me on fb, no happy birthdays nothing.

duchy

Surely they aren't your "family" but your extended family.

Not sure why you are bothered.

McKneff

Im not sure why you are bothered either....


Just let them get on with it, and you get on with your life.


Good luck....

Pollycat

[simon] wrote: »

By family I mean cousins, aunties and uncle,

duchy wrote: »

Surely they aren't your "family" but your extended family.

I agree with duchy.

I've not seen most of my cousins for at least 10 years, ditto for aunts & uncles.

pickledonionspaceraider

You seem very judgemental about your family OP. Maybe their attitude is your own attitude - reflected back at you

Either way, you have little in common with them

BucksLady

Sometimes friends grow apart and it's no different with families. Life changes each one of us and sometimes we just have to move on.