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Westvleteren

Morning



One or two of you may remember that I was suppose to go to Aberdeen college to do a HND in Photography but with the move I had a tough decision to make, stay there and do the course or move - a decision that drove me to distraction but turned my back on Aberdeen college in favour of the move. Went for an interview yesterday and have been accepted to do a BA (Hons) in Photography Start this September :eek::eek:

After getting fed up of run keeper and map my run aps not accurately tracking, measuring walks I spent 69p and bought Garmin fit which accurately tracks and measure walks, so recommend it if you are looking for something reliable Want to get back to 12min/per mile for two miles :cool: Yesterday gave it a bash after not timing for a couple of years and way off pace at 13.02min/mile. Something to work on.........

Think i'm joining tweets and lfab back on the healthier wagon anyone else joining in........?

mrsmac10

Westvleteren wrote: »

Morning



One or two of you may remember that I was suppose to go to Aberdeen college to do a HND in Photography but with the move I had a tough decision to make, stay there and do the course or move - a decision that drove me to distraction but turned my back on Aberdeen college in favour of the move. Went for an interview yesterday and have been accepted to do a BA (Hons) in Photography Start this September :eek::eek:

After getting fed up of run keeper and map my run aps not accurately tracking, measuring walks I spent 69p and bought Garmin fit which accurately tracks and measure walks, so recommend it if you are looking for something reliable Want to get back to 12min/per mile for two miles :cool: Yesterday gave it a bash after not timing for a couple of years and way off pace at 13.02min/mile. Something to work on.........

Think i'm joining tweets and lfab back on the healthier wagon anyone else joining in........?

Fantastic news :T Take it the course is in your "new" home town We will all look forward to seeing your pictures.

My "rich" friend(ex boss) commissioned a photographer to take pictures of Glasgow and they all show scenes visible from his luxury flat.

There is a job for out there with plenty of money to be made

cjj_2

Morning all. Been skimming a lot lately and know I've missed lots of news. Sorry about this and hugs to all that need em.
FC hope your ds can come home today.
xx

Evangeline1971

Good morning

miss_corerupted wrote: »

don't blame you. I don't feel guilty. I only worry that Oh. Will find out and think there is something wrong with me



Thank you Evangline. I have been stressing/worrying that there is something wrong with me. As i should love/Care for SS because I'm female
going to bed a lot less stressed

My OH knows how I feel as I could only keep it suppressed for so many years. Luckily for me he seems to be ok about it. I don't think there's anything wrong with you and not everyone is maternal. I was very young when I had my children so they're grown up now. I was quite a bad mum really since I was so immature

fairclaire wrote: »

I hope you don't mind me commenting on this. What I'm about to say is meant as helpful and constructive.

Do you think this situation might be improved if you all stopped treating this child like he is an inconvenience? I know that's just life but......too tired to pick him up, doesn't want to be kept waiting etc. I don't know what age this child is but I can guarantee you he will be picking up on the negativity surrounding him.

I know only too well what a hostile situation it can be with marriage break ups, step children etc and I know it's not easy at all. You might find this child's behaviour improves if you all start putting him first when it's his time to be with you. He never asked to be in the situation he is in after all.

I was in a very similar situation as a teenager and it still affects me to this day. That's why Ive said what I have. It's all too easy for grown ups to get wrapped up in their own battles and forget how the kids feel

I hope you don't take offence, there's none meant.

No I don't take offence and thanks for the reply I've tried to discuss this problem with my therapist but she doesn't seem to have practical advice. If I'm total honest the kid isn't all bad but my biggest issue with him is that he puts his mums side of the family first all the time while this side of the family have done loads for him and get treated like c**p. He stays here to see his dad the minimum he can get away with which is every other fortnight. Christmas and birthday is a short visit to collect his presents from us and MIL, FIL then he's off to spend Christmas with his mum and her parents as happens every year. To me he's not interested in his Dad or Grandparents on this side, he's just using us for what he can get. Also every time he comes here he seems to expect to be treated to meals out and chippy when we're struggling for cash.

Another part of the problem is that I miss my own children. I see DS1 occasionally but other OH won't let him come to the house because in the past he's stolen from me and other family members. I haven't seen DS2 in 4 years because he doesn't get on with OH and is too busy with his own life to make time to see me DS2 was 14 when he left to live with his dad.

SS is 13 and he's into the band Fall Out Boy, same as DS2 was. I used to love Fall Out Boy and DS2 and I went to see them at Leeds Festival in 2006. Now I can't listen to them anymore because it just upsets me when I think of DS2 and what I've lost. SS reminds me that I don't have DS2 in my life anymore and I get angry when I see SS doing similar things that OH got angry with DS2 for but he always seems to have some reason why its different.

Sorry for this long post in the morning. I'm upset again now thinking of DS2 and I'd be better off if I could forget him. He's 19 now BTW

mrsmac10

Good morning all

Cold damp and overcast but we are off for an overnight in a caravan.

Going to see some of the "Burns Heritage" in Ayrshire. There is a sada and tesco quite close :rotfl:

Enjoy your day

floydy

Mildred1970 wrote: »

Hi gocat, yes it's v M

If you get 2 JF oils plus trigger you get £9+ back on a £10 spend (plus fillers of course)

Also extra benefit if you live near a T's taking APGs :cool::)

Good Morning all, been awol for ages..RL taking over...in any case i'd love to catch up with the JF/Tresemme but don't know what the triggers are...please could someone enlighten me...i bought 2 red box and classic h&s but didn't work, hey ho...still a decent deal...many thanx ..have a lovely day peeps xx

Mildred1970

fairclaire wrote: »

Night Mildred. I was hoovering at silly o'clock this morning and thought of your DS :rotfl::rotfl:

One of the first things he said this morning: Mummy can we have a look at the toy hoovers on the computer oh please oh please oh please oh please

I was looking through the toys on T direct yesterday and he saw a dyson hoover (I didn't scroll past it quick enough - mistake )

He's now badgering me for it, I just told him he'll have to wait and see what Father Christmas brings, and he just said 'email him mummy' :rotfl::rotfl:

Mildred1970

Morning all :wave:

Mildred1970

floydy wrote: »

Good Morning all, been awol for ages..RL taking over...in any case i'd love to catch up with the JF/Tresemme but don't know what the triggers are...please could someone enlighten me...i bought 2 red box and classic h&s but didn't work, hey ho...still a decent deal...many thanx ..have a lovely day peeps xx

H&S trigger is Total Care

Other triggers are the Tresemme Keratin 7 Day Conditioner white tube and an Impulse gift set

mrsmac10

Evangeline1971 wrote: »

Good morning



My OH knows how I feel as I could only keep it suppressed for so many years. Luckily for me he seems to be ok about it. I don't think there's anything wrong with you and not everyone is maternal. I was very young when I had my children so they're grown up now. I was quite a bad mum really since I was so immature



No I don't take offence and thanks for the reply I've tried to discuss this problem with my therapist but she doesn't seem to have practical advice. If I'm total honest the kid isn't all bad but my biggest issue with him is that he puts his mums side of the family first all the time while this side of the family have done loads for him and get treated like c**p. He stays here to see his dad the minimum he can get away with which is every other fortnight. Christmas and birthday is a short visit to collect his presents from us and MIL, FIL then he's off to spend Christmas with his mum and her parents as happens every year. To me he's not interested in his Dad or Grandparents on this side, he's just using us for what he can get. Also every time he comes here he seems to expect to be treated to meals out and chippy when we're struggling for cash.

Another part of the problem is that I miss my own children. I see DS1 occasionally but other OH won't let him come to the house because in the past he's stolen from me and other family members. I haven't seen DS2 in 4 years because he doesn't get on with OH and is too busy with his own life to make time to see me DS2 was 14 when he left to live with his dad.

SS is 13 and he's into the band Fall Out Boy, same as DS2 was. I used to love Fall Out Boy and DS2 and I went to see them at Leeds Festival in 2005. Now I can't listen to them anymore because it just upsets me when I think of DS2 and what I've lost. SS reminds me that I don't have DS2 in my life anymore and I get angry when I see SS doing similar things that OH got angry with DS2 for but he always seems to have some reason why its different.

Sorry for this long post in the morning. I'm upset again now thinking of DS2 and I'd be better off if I could forget him. He's 19 now BTW

I dont have wise words but can feel the pain in your post. Hope the day improves ((hugs))