I want a boyfriend! Dating debtfree style?

skint_spice

ZTD wrote: »

Nope. All my friends have moved away (and I moved too).

count yourself lucky then! you don't have to endure nights out with the female equivalent of Tim, Nice but Dim.

Good luck in your quest.

PasturesNew

I just remembered. I did go on a date about 3 years ago. Worra plonka!

We got in contact online. He seemed nice enough. Chatted for awhile and arranged to meet for a drink. I arranged to meet him for a quick drink (you need to get away quick if they're really not your thing). I got there after him and bought my own drink. We chatted for about an hour. He was nice enough. We left the pub and went our separate ways.

Later the same day he got in touch and asked me to go to the cinema with him. So I agreed. He knew my financial situation (£0 income, £100k mortgage, struggling). He was: permanently and continuously employed in a job paying 2x the local wage in a place 3 miles from his house. He had a small house, small mortgage that he had had for a number of years. He had a lodger. So, he wasn't short of a bob or two.

The arrangement was: we'd meet up 17 miles away, then use his car to drive the next 15 miles to the cinema. Fair enough. I got there, he turned up, he got in my car - didn't ask, just assumed I would be driving (not as arranged). So I drove to the cinema. He bought himself a ticket, I got my money out and he let me buy my own ticket.

Afterwards we went for a drink, I had a coke. I hadn't even finished and he said "Come on, it's your round". And he was being quite dull on top of this.

It wasn't that I was paying "my half" that annoyed me, just he seemed overly-greedy bearing in mind we'd orginally agreed to take his car (not mine) and he wasn't patiently waiting for me to finish my drink and offer to buy a round.

After that I took him back to his car and blocked him on MSN.

theunknownstuntman

my "set up" was a total shock to me. it wasnt till i rang my mate the next day and he admitted that he and his wife had set me up that it hit home (I'm a bit dim myself that way! lol)

ZTD

skint_spice wrote: »

count yourself lucky then! you don't have to endure nights out with the female equivalent of Tim, Nice but Dim.

At least it would keep me off the streets...

skint_spice wrote: »

Good luck in your quest.

And you in yours.

skint_spice

theunknownstuntman wrote: »

my "set up" was a total shock to me. it wasnt till i rang my mate the next day and he admitted that he and his wife had set me up that it hit home (I'm a bit dim myself that way! lol)

lucky you! I'd been previously warned that they thought I should get together with mr X and had managed to avoid the meeting for months as I knew when he'd be about and avoided like the plague, didn't expect NYE though so they outwitted me there!

ZTD

skint_spice wrote: »

lucky you! I'd been previously warned that they thought I should get together with mr X and had managed to avoid the meeting for months as I knew when he'd be about and avoided like the plague, didn't expect NYE though so they outwitted me there!

See you should have just got it over with earlier. Maybe went out to see a film like Fatal Instinct...

skint_spice

ZTD wrote: »

See you should have just got it over with earlier. Maybe went out to see a film like Fatal Instinct...

or gotten wise to their intentions perhaps. on the upside getting flirty texts from THE BLOKE - not the dim one - so maybe 2008 will be a good year after all.

ZTD

skint_spice wrote: »

or gotten wise to their intentions perhaps. on the upside getting flirty texts from THE BLOKE - not the dim one - so maybe 2008 will be a good year after all.

But will he get brave enough to make a flirty move? Or are you going to have to bundle him behind the bike-sheds yourself?

skint_spice

ZTD wrote: »

But will he get brave enough to make a flirty move? Or are you going to have to bundle him behind the bike-sheds yourself?

Be positive - of course he will. Nearly asked him out on a proper date the other night but thought that was maybe too forward and might make it awkward if he declined. if he doesn't make a move by the end of jan I will do though! there's a promise!

Spendaholic_Chick

You should think yourselves lucky your mates are willing to set you up lol. None of my mates know anyone single/normal/daft enough :rolleyes:

My brother has some single mates but whenever any of them ask after me, or vice versa, he tells them to keep well away :mad: - and they don't argue cos he's 6'4" and built like a brick ****house. He says none of them are good enough for me :rolleyes: