Potty Training

fawd1

sacha28 wrote: »

Hi OP, sounds like you're making great progress I have a small problem with potty training too......my LB is 2.5 and is dry throughout the day and has been for 2 weeks but flat out refuses to poo on the potty!!! He will tell me he needs a poo but then all hell breaks loose when I dare to suggest the potty! The other day I refused to put a nappy on him so he could poo and he held it until I put his bedtime nappy on and, within 30 seconds, he said 'thank you mummy, I can poo now'!!

If anyone has ANY suggestions how I can get over that one please let me know!

ps I'm not holding out any hope that he'll be dry at night anytime soon but I'm not too fussed

Can't help, I'm afraid, but if it makes you feel better my eldest DS was dry for almost a year before he ever did a poo on the potty or toilet. Nothing, NOTHING could convince him to do it. He didn't even want to use the nappy, he just wanted to never poo again. It took his younger brother (DS2) to use the toilet perfectly, first try, to convince him that he wouldn't be sucked into oblivion of some kind!

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I'm currently training my son who is also two years ten months and was finding it hard so I bought a book which I found helped and we are now cracking it. It's a potty training book by Gina ford. Hope this helps. Good luck!

Air_Cooled_75

My little boy was out of nappies for wees around 2 and a half, he wanted a nappy on for a poo until he was 3 and on the day he was 3 and a half he decided he didn't want to use the potty or nappies anymore. He was dry overnight from about 2 though.

Don't rush it, we haven't had any relapses at all.

flutterby_lil

My daughter is 2 years 4 months and is dry day and night. My son was a similar age. My nephew however has only just come out of nappies at night in December and was 6 soon after.

The way I did it was to put knickers on my daughter (she had asked to wear them) so when she wet she could feel the sensation and know she was wet, I didn't use pull ups - they give the wrong sign to me. A lot of children think they are just like a nappy (which they are) and get lazy with them - they can't feel they are wet so don't learn as quick.

My daughter was dry on her first day - she was going every hour to the toilet so she got used to going, now 4 months on, she goes about 4 times a day as she has learnt to hold it and knows she doesn't need to go as soon as she feels like she has to. She had a couple of accident on day 3 and 4 but from then has been dry every day.

(She took around 4 weeks to actually poo on the potty/toilet as she didn't like pooing - she has bowel problems anyway and takes medication every day for it)

As she had done so well during the day, I tried her without a nappy at night and she has done remarkably well, with only 4 accidents! I don't need to lift her at night when we go to bed either. I let her pick her own "big girl" knickers and tell her I am so proud of her so she can choose what she likes ..... seems to work for us as she feels involved in the buying process. Also, we let her pick which potty she wanted to help encourage her to go. From being around 18 months old we let her sit on the potty naked (she loves being a rudy tudy) and read stories to her, so when she was ready to potty train she already loved sitting on it. Sometimes for an hour. When she did her first wee on it we praised her so much, even little brother got involved and was really proud of her.

sulkisu

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

You are joking right! I'd be asking the health Visitor for advice. I was toilet trained by 18 months, 3 is too old in my opinion.

Hopefully any H or health professional that you ask will tell you that you need to wait until they are ready. It simply doesn't work before that. DS1 also had speech delays although he has caught up now. Like you I thought he was getting too old for nappies and tried several times from the age of 2.5. Cue lots of frustration for both of us. Potty trainggg involved taking off his nappy, putting him in pants and constantly putting him on the toilet waiting for him to pee. He would sit for ages, stand up and pee in his pants. He started nursery at Easter aged 3 and 3 months still in nappies - nursery were supportive and said he just isn't ready. I wondered if he ever would be. I tried again in May, disaster. I tried again the following month and he was done in one day - and by 'done' I mean he knows when he needs to go, takes himself to the toilet and does both pees and poos in it. Since then he has had two accidents and one of those was my fault. Its hard especially when it feels like everbodyelse child has trained, even more so when they have other issues such as speech delays because you are constantly comparing them to other children. For me, I wanted the reassurance that there was nothing seriously wrong with my son. I can tell you that I spoke to excellent HVs, two different paedriatricians and they all said the same thing - he isn't ready and not one seemed concerned that he was too old!

starnac

Thank you all for your input. I think we are finally getting there. He finally had a wee on the toilet about 2 days ago and I think he realised that nothing bad happened to him (sucked down there? Toilet exploded? I don't know ) so he has been asking to go. A couple of times he just wants to sit there and not do anyone but I am quite happy for him to do this as I don't want to do anything to put him off now we are getting somewhere.

He's not as keen to do a poo and sometimes holds it til he is desperate or asks me or DH for a cuddle while he goes. I'm quite happy to do this too as any cuddle is a bonus right?

We've had a couple of accidents in the last two days but one of them was my fault. We are slowly getting over his fear of the toilet/potty.

Thank you to everyone who has taken time out to offer advice x

Top_Girl

About 12 years ago, I had my Godson for a week when he was almost four as his mum was in hospital. He was still in nappies.

No developmental delays that anyone knew of, he just didn't fancy the potty.

His mum was at the end of her tether. At the time, the house I lived in was laminated/tiled throughout (and very cold!). I offered to take him cold turkey, as I'd booked the week off to take care of him and she was well up for it and didn't send any nappies, just a plastic sheet for my spare bed.

A few bottles of disinfectant, air fresheners and washloads later, he was fully potty trained within 4 days, treat duly bought and never looked back.

He's exactly the same temperament now, great kid, just really laid back.

happycomper22

I really think I comes down to the individual child. My son has a severe speech delay/social communication issues so it was always going to be difficult with the potty training. I tried him quiet a few times between the ages of 2.5/3 years but he was having none of it. so I sort of gave up as it was stressing me out and putting me and my son under pressure.


Im now happy to say he has been nappy free from July with almost zero accidents. I don't know if I was just lucky or if he himself was just finally ready. He seriously loves going to the big boy toilet especially for poos? I'm honestly glad I didn't put any pressure on us these past few months and I just went with instinct that my child was not ready. I cannot say I "potty trained" my son because truthfully he did it all by himself - as he was ready. I imagined potty training to be so hard because we had had so many false starts with it before but this time was different it was like he just knew what to do with very little interaction from me. I definatley think if I had more children I wouldn't stress about it again. It WILL happen when the child is ready.

Molly41

My 3 sons were all 3 when trained - again all within a week and dry day and night. My daughter was 2 1/2 and again did it very quickly. I think boys do it later than girls and I waited till they were very ready - i.e. almost doing it themselves! No point stressing and getting unhappy x

As for pooping children are often scared to see part of them come out of themselves. I would try putting a nappy on and sitting on the loo to go and very gradually wean the nappy off. Also there is some lovely books about poop, explaining what happens and that might help x

amersall

there is some lovely books about poop

:rotfl::rotfl: That tickled me