Unusual Executor of will Query re tenancy in common

TBagpuss

Hi OP, I would suggest that you speak to a solicitor who deals with Probate matters. You don't have to instruct them to deal with the entire probate if you don';t want to, but they will be able to give you some advice about the way forward, and a formal letter from a solicito to you husband's aunt may well get more attention hat you husband's own e-mails etc.

Another option to consider might be to see of your husband could arrange to go to see his aunt, to sit down with her face to face to clarify what the situation is.

Has the aunt actually seen the property/ Is she aware of the level of hoarding? If not, sending her some photographs might be appropriate to give her an idea of what state the poperty is in.

Similarly, suggesting to the cousin that she comes for a weekend to help you and you husband with clearing the house might be useful (assuming you would be happy with her being there) - it would allow her to see for herself what the place is like, and how difficult it is to clear.

Does your husband feel that he needs to go through his Dad's stuff himself, or would he consider getting a house clearance company in? That is of course his choice, as from what you say, this is his Dad's stuff and so the costs would come out of the estate, they would not be a cost shared with the aunt.

I do agree with the poster who suggested asking Aunt to confirm that whether she thinks there is anything in the house that may be hers, or if she agrees that the house contents belong to the estate and that your husband can clear/ dispose of them.

Unless your husband has received conformation from Aunt that she wants her daughter to act for her then I would send any correspondence to aunt, not to cousin. How confident are you that Aunt even knows what cousin is saying?