Regret moving into this place, help!

dodger1

Spacepig wrote: »

Well the other housemates don't seem to mind, almost in agreement with her because she had a bad day. I Brought it up and "She's had a hard days work" With happened yet again.

I can just see a pattern emerging.

Frankly if something so trivial is bothering you it's going to be a major struggle for you to house share, stick with the solo route.

Lord_Baltimore

You say that "the land lady is incredibly annoying and really making me stressed. She sends photos of kitchen plates that haven't been put away and left on the drying rack".

I suppose by that same token your land lady might find you incredibly stressful and annoying because you leave the plates in the drying rack.

Look, it's about compromise; a little give and take. When you live with others, you need to accommodate them in the same way that they are accommodating you.

Put the plates away in future. Her tidiness phobia will be satisfied and your slovenliness may improve:D. Drama over.

katejo

meg72 wrote: »

Love this am considering buying one in OLD age, like now lol seems to me that if its out of sight its out of mind but worry that I might forget I have plates :rotfl:

I first got one in 2012 when I had the kitchen done (having managed without for many years). It really does make a difference to the clearing up!

AlexMac

On a scale of one to ten, a pictorial winge by proxy about you forgetting to wash up seems pretty mild; pity she hasn't got the strength of character to look you in the eye and say 'please wash up and put your plates away' (which would be a more effective way). Then you could say 'sorry; forgot; will do' or 'not me... blame the right person' (best said with a smile!).

But worse things happen in house shares. When I first married, we took the top two rooms in a shared house; with the owner's trusted old friend and long-term tenant fulfilling the role you describe. She was very sensitive to noise and lived below us. She'd obviously also forgotten what newly weds do (OK, not just newly-weds, but you get my drift).

One night, our bedroom door opened, a little head popped round and she asked 'Are you having trouble with your bed?'!

So wait til you bring someone home!

Ames

Spacepig wrote: »

By the way this wasn't my actual mess. If it were an actual tip or something to warrant sending me photos during work time, I'd understand but for non dried plates? I came down this morning, a few plates still in the rack from last night. I always put my stuff away, even more so being the new guy in town. But it's the cheek of the sending photos that has me.

My friend laughed when I showed her the photos. (she's a clean freak too, shoes off at the door)



They're all pretty well introduced, been on trips, cinema etc. Others have been there for a year the other a month. The photos were sent to everyone via group chat.

I have no problem with sharing, I actually enjoy it now but regardless of living situations, you don't deal with situations like this every time something goes bad in your Life.

I've noticed the other house mates don't really mind this, I brought it up nd they were understanding of her 'work stress'.

I read it as it's not the OPs plates that are a problem?

vansboy

I've just seen the place has been sold, anyway, it's featured in the 'Have a look at this' thread, earlier.

Cant really see what the Landlady was complaining about.

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-29568399.html?premiumA=true

VB

-Cheryl-

Follow ur gut feelings Spacepig! Could u quietly speak to her and mention to her how u feel? She may not know she is annoying u to this level?

Do u like the place? If no then maybe best find somewhere else as u don't want her to get u down

Reactor_2

Spacepig wrote: »

No worries, I think that is probably the case. Agreement was one printed from the net, it doesn't specify anything really other than six month agreement and the usual points but no names or addresses.

I paid the 'landlady' the deposit when I first moved in.

Cheers

Sounds like she is subletting to everyone else. It's probably a very nice little earner for her, given that renting individual rooms in a property is usually more than you'd get renting out the whole unit.