Regret moving into this place, help!

Spacepig

buglawton wrote: »

How about sending back a photo of a nice new dishwasher available from most electrical stores

In a heavily used kitchen a dishwasher is a near-essential. I was skeptical until I got one in middle age - and realise that one big benefit is that plates never sit on a plate rack any more.

Well I should have sent one of the overloaded bin.;)

Spacepig

meg72 wrote: »

Not really sure just what is upsetting you here, If its as you say receiving these messages whilst at work consider leaving your phone under your desk whilst at work. It sounds to me like its not a bad place to be and believe me theres far worse out there.

It's the principle, why not wait until everyone is home? By no means is it a nightmare but I'd rather be paying my hard earned to someone else.

meg72

buglawton wrote: »

How about sending back a photo of a nice new dishwasher available from most electrical stores

In a heavily used kitchen a dishwasher is a near-essential. I was skeptical until I got one in middle age - and realise that one big benefit is that plates never sit on a plate rack any more.

Love this am considering buying one in OLD age, like now lol seems to me that if its out of sight its out of mind but worry that I might forget I have plates :rotfl:

MadelinesMum

My friend had a landlady like that and it drove her nuts. You'll either have to accept that's how she is, and laugh it off like your fellow housemates or consider finding somewhere else to live. Bear in mind, it could be worse somewhere else. I shared with someone who put padlocks on his kitchen cupboards but would happily get drunk and eat all the food out of mine. I would pay towards the gas and electric and he didn't top up the key and I ended up having to pay for it again! Swings and roundabouts I'm afraid.

Spacepig

MadelinesMum wrote: »

My friend had a landlady like that and it drove her nuts. You'll either have to accept that's how she is, and laugh it off like your fellow housemates or consider finding somewhere else to live. Bear in mind, it could be worse somewhere else. I shared with someone who put padlocks on his kitchen cupboards but would happily get drunk and eat all the food out of mine. I would pay towards the gas and electric and he didn't top up the key and I ended up having to pay for it again! Swings and roundabouts I'm afraid.

Dear Lord!:eek: Puts things into context.

meg72

Spacepig wrote: »

By Land Lady, it's not her house but she's the one who deals with the rent on behalf of whoever owns it.



She lives here, yes.

That is true but if she pulled her on weight it'd be different. I.e, she didn't feel like changing the bins so they were overloaded to the top. She was the only one home all day so I guess that was left for someone else to do.

The other guys are pretty cool.(quote)




Sorry your post said your landlady, presumed she owned property seems like she is now perhaps a just a long term sharer trusted by your landlady to collect rent, but am concerned when you say whoever owns it, who is your agreement with. who did you pay your deposit with? what does your agreement say?. I do think you need to address this and know exactly who you are dealing with.




This is it, need to make a decision. You're never going to find somewhere perfect but this is something I can do without.

Sorry your post said your landlady, presumed she owned property seems like she is now perhaps a just a long term sharer trusted by your landlady to collect rent, but am concerned when you say whoever owns it, who is your agreement with. who did you pay your deposit with? what does your agreement say?. I do think you need to address this and know exactly who you are dealing with.

dodger1

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, if anything I'd be having a laugh with my friends and fellow housemates about it.

Spacepig

meg72 wrote: »

Sorry your post said your landlady, presumed she owned property seems like she is now perhaps a just a long term sharer trusted by your landlady to collect rent, but am concerned when you say whoever owns it, who is your agreement with. who did you pay your deposit with? what does your agreement say?. I do think you need to address this and know exactly who you are dealing with.

No worries, I think that is probably the case. Agreement was one printed from the net, it doesn't specify anything really other than six month agreement and the usual points but no names or addresses.

I paid the 'landlady' the deposit when I first moved in.

Cheers

Spacepig

dodger1 wrote: »

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, if anything I'd be having a laugh with my friends and fellow housemates about it.

Well the other housemates don't seem to mind, almost in agreement with her because she had a bad day. I Brought it up and "She's had a hard days work" With happened yet again.

I can just see a pattern emerging.

BigAunty

I know that the person you find petty is a mesne (intermediate) landlord or chief tenant but I think it takes a particular type of person who can deal with the difference in culture/etiquette that can come with a live in landlord/lady as the vibe,rules and expectations can be different.

It is probably also the case that you aren't really fitting in with a household that's got an existing relationship or dynamic so you feel out of step because of their stronger bonds.

Trust your instinct. If you have a more relaxed flat share, you wouldn't have your reservations. Find a place that fits with your outlook.

The downside is that the pendulum can swing the other way and you may find your next place is so chilled it descends into a hovel without any kind of rules around cleanliness, overnight guests, noise and so forth.

I have been what I considered to be a quite relaxed live in landlady with the most minimum of rules and courtesy from my 3 past lodgers but the squalor and devastation that they wreaked was something else to behold. I was away around half the week and knew that I would be selling up in 6 months that's the only reason I stopped myself going mental.

The following was the norm for each of them, none were tidier than the other - skidmarks in the loo, hair shavings in the bath, saucepans with food placed in the fridge, I found broken crockery in the bin without an offer to replace it, my post was interfered with, tumble driers used on sunny days because they were too lazy to hang it out in the garden and didn't want to iron the creases out, their friends sleeping in the living room, the crockery ran out as it was hoarded dirty in rooms and debt collectors called for them.

I once came back from a 3 week holiday to find that as the washing liquid had run out, kitchen ware was just rinsed in water and put in back on the shelves greasy or used handsoap on it rather than spend 50p on washing up liquid. Also, I forgot to empty the bin before I left so when I returned, I found rubbish piled up around the base of the bin and then all along the worktops and floor. Generally, every bathroom and kitchen surface was routinely manky and rarely wiped or rinsed. I was even called once to say a bulb had blown and she seemed surprised at my suggestion that she took a spare bulb from a cupboard and changed it herself.

It was like each of them would cook or bathe and merely step away from the room without a backward glance, they were strangers to cleaning sprays and cloths. It was horrific but I bit my tongue and just kept cleaning up their mess.

So I hope you find a nice balance - tidy without being fanatical, friendly without being cliquey, respectful and relaxed.