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  • Dozey_crow
    Dozey_crow Posts: 312 Forumite
    Hi, I am so sorry to read of this situation it must be horrible for you and your family. I would call women's refuge or go to your local council housing office or local social services department as there are young children involved. The council will have refugee for you to go to. If either of these fail then there is the police. They ate required to protect you.

    Don't worry about money for now. The council will be able to house you, there are emergency payments to tide you all over and people will help you get benefits and things. They can also help you sort out debts.

    My advice would be to leave asap but you can only do it once.. You can't go back. Pack a small bag each with clothes, small momentous and a favorite toy for each child. It will be helpful if you can get your documents together such as birth certificates, papers etc as it will speed up getting a place to live. See what you can do but be careful.

    You are all really brave. The next step will be huge though. Good luck xxx
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  • mountainofdebt
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    firstly have you spoken to the bank? If possible I would go in and see someone at your branch as they may be able to come to some arrangement with you about paying the debt off.
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  • kxc798
    kxc798 Posts: 67 Forumite
    Hello,

    I agree with Dozey Crow. Women's Aid advised me to make sure that both mine and my son's birth certificates / passports / driver's licence were always in one bag altogether and in a place I could easily grab it and go. Ditto house keys / car keys and mobile phones. I would recommend talking to Women's Aid who will discuss your options with you. Please also keep a diary on your person and jot down anything that happens - my solicitor recommended that to me and it came in very useful when it went to court. To this day I still do all of this out of habit. I can fully recommend the Halifax to you - Natwest and Lloyds TSB had no interest in helping me out but it was the Halifax that helped me in those early days and are still helping me even now. You will get through this I promise you x
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  • BrassicWoman
    BrassicWoman Posts: 3,220 Forumite
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    Start with Women's Aid, says me adding my voice to the chorus! They are very used to similar situations and have helped thousands!
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