Wireless Monitor For When Baby Falls Asleep In Car?

moomoomama27

Morglin wrote: »

Good for you - but balance in all things is best - your life as wife and lover is as important as that of a parent!

And, I think, you will find, eventually, that 'the latest professional advice' is just recycled lol - first one thing, then another, then back to the first way!

But, as I said, every parent should do what they think best - as we all did before endless advice on the net......:whistle:

Lin

The back to sleep campaign was started in the late 80s and has not changed since then, I don't agree advice is recycled, especially now as research is so advanced.

As for balance, you can have perfect balance making your children a priority for their early years! It's worked for us, we've been married, happily a loooong time, despite having to be inventive lovers

GobbledyGook

Morglin wrote: »

My babies, 40 years ago, went into their own room straight away (with a monitor) and both slept through the night from 6 weeks old - so it worked out just fine all round.:T

We all bonded, we all thrived, and we all get along wonderfully well, so it obviously didn't trash the child/parent relationship too much...:whistle: lol

I always got up, in the night, to feed them, because there were a couple of news accounts, at that time, of mothers feeding in bed, falling asleep and suffocating their babies, so better safe than sorry.

The medical profession constantly changes advice, as over the years there has been much advice to let babies sleep in the same bed as adults - there are now suggestions that this CAN be a contributory factor with cot deaths. :wall:

Over the years, I have heard medical advice advising parents to lay babies on their fronts, backs and sides - all contradicting each other!

Best that parents rely on their own instincts, ignore all the conflicting advice everywhere, and just do what feels right for you and baby.

I would also think that, for the sake of a happy relationship, mum and dad need private time together, to be lovers, as well as parents, and I wonder how that works when there is a toddler/young child in the same room? :think:

Lin

And for every story like yours there is one like my grandparents. Their first two children who went into their own rooms, as was standard, both died of cot death. Their younger two who were born when they lived in a bedsit and were therefore always in the same room did not.

Safe co-sleeping is NOT a factor in cot death at all. The reason it is discouraged so much in this country is that people don't do it safely. In countries like Japan where safe co-sleeping is incredibly common they don't even have a word for cot death because it happens so rarely.

The "I did X" attitude doesn't help anyone. My Grandad slept in a cot most likely painted with lead paint, never put on a seat belt far less was in a car seat and left school to work in a factory at 12. He did alright as well, but doesn't mean it'd be remotely acceptable for me to do the same with my son. Times change nd advice changes for a reason. Very few people follow every single guideline, but I'm always baffled that people ignore the cot death one so easily.

Then again perhaps it's like measles. Deaths from measles and cot death are so rare now that many parents are unaware that actually, yes, it could happen to your child. When it's not everywhere all of the time people get complacent.

The advice is only for six months. if Mum & Dad's relationship can't sustain not being able to swing from the bedroom chandelier for six months (if they feel the need to not have sex with a baby in the room) then I suggest the constant demands by the baby are going to have an even bigger impact before they even get upstairs.

greeneggs_2

Morglin wrote: »

Each to their own, but if you are talking infant mortality wise, it was more common in previous generations (various reasons).

I am of (obviously) an older generation than you, and I still think best to do what instinct tells you, and ignore the conflicting medical advice!

But most (if not all) of the reasons for decreased infant mortality in our generation are because of a greater understanding of: biology, germ theory and various scientific advances - not because our instincts are better now.

People are well within their rights to ignore medical advice but it always surprises me that mothers and grandmothers are so willing to believe that the medical advice is wrong rather than believing that they may have simply been the lucky ones.

[Deleted User]

We never found a decent way of monitoring our son when he continued his nap in the car other than by positioning the car so we could see him from our loung window.

I've not bothered reading the thread because I don't need other people's advice on how I raise my kids. Neither my wife or I are idiots and we would never endanger them.

I did toy with idea of phoning a cordless house phone with my mobile, then putting it in the car. The other one I tried was using a wireless video camera on the lounge ledge watching into the car, with the output on the TV.

I bet I could gerryrig something with a rasberry pi... To be honest I like to sit in the car and read in peace, or watch something on netflix on my phone. Kiddy car nap time is daddy peaceful media time now

Poppops

The National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) says:

children under 12 are rarely mature enough to be left alone for a long period of time
children under 16 shouldn’t be left alone overnight
babies, toddlers and very young children should never be left alone

emweaver

roses wrote: »

Thank you all for your fantastic advice on what a horrific parent I am.

First of all I am looking for a solution I can use all year round.

Second of all I am not a complete moron. I would never leave my son in the sweltering heat, I of course use my judgement.

My son is like me. Once he is up, he is up and he won't go back to sleep so moving him from car to cost doesn't work.

I have found a number of camping baby monitors which suit what I am looking for.

Really, some of the comments here about how I'm neglecting my child are really narrow minded. Most people I know leave their child in the car to sleep in their driveway in the small town where I live. It is not dangerous as long as you use your judgement.

My daughters are all the same, no way can you move them without waking them and it resulting in a major meltdown.

I knew you would get abuse before I even read the replies.

emweaver

Errata wrote: »

I wouldn't do it, kids fall asleep at the drop of a hat, wake up if a butterfly flaps its wings, and fall asleep again.

I have had a lot of experience with kids, coming from a large family and disagree with this! You must be extremely lucky with your kids.

Carmina-Piranha_2

Children are all different. My youngest would easily settle back into his sleep if it was his usual nap-time, but eldest certainly would not, and it wasn't due to my being more confident with the second baby, etc. it was because he was a terrible sleeper.

GobbledyGook

Carmina-Piranha wrote: »

Children are all different. My youngest would easily settle back into his sleep if it was his usual nap-time, but eldest certainly would not, and it wasn't due to my being more confident with the second baby, etc. it was because he was a terrible sleeper.

Exactly this. My eldest slept like a dream, got herself into a routine early on and stuck to it. Even now she is very routine led because it suits her. Middle was (and to an extent still is) a nightmare. If she was disturbed from a nap she would fight going back to sleep and become and over-tired, wailing, unpleasant nightmare and nothing would soothe her despite the fact I was a more confident parent by then. Youngest is currently asleep on the floor having grabbed a cushion from the sofa and decided he was tired. That just sums him up - sleepy = sleep.

duchy

I don't think the OP has thought it through
Year round solution-winter too cold, summer too hot
High winds- tree falls on car
Heavy rain or hail on car- wakes child up anyway

Neighbours not approving - SS pop round...or police

Sounds like it would be a lot easier to just bring the child in and put up with a bit of noise til they settle again.