I'm in a terrible state of son being made homeless

nats3006

Sorry to sound harsh, cos i really dont mean to but the first thought i had when i read this post was, why did she leave a 17 year old in the first place if he was so immature and childlike, especially to somewhere so far away correct me if im wrong in what im saying and i know you have said he caused trouble with you and your husband but he is your son!!

Anyway i hope you dont take it the wrong way, good luck

Nats
xx

Savvy_Sue

If there's a Foyer near your son then they may be able to help him. Actually, he may be able to move a distance to get into one.

foreign_correspondent

yes i agree with Sue, Foyers are generally very good - in my experience all young people staying there have to get involved in education or training, which can be really beneficial. They tend to be a bit over subscribed, but well worth trying for.
Also as they are limited to young people only there is less risk of dodgy older characters, and also an ethic of not just 'dossing around' all day as in some hostels.

daisy_doughnut_2

hi there
we have a friend who is 17 an he also ws kicked out he stays with us a few nights a week an others with mates
i took him to the local council an had him placed on the homeless list he was offered a flat in 2 months i know that the b an b isnt great but its a start an if he gets him self down to the council he will be made priority conections will help alot as well they helped our friend

the thing that peed me off tho was we helped him secure a job the only one after months that would take him he packs printer cartridges its was only part time tho
so now he has his flat but can get NO help with furnishings ect but he only gets a little more than he would have staying on dole an he would of recieved a grant
anyway after lots of searching ive helped him furnish it to the basic level using freecycle ect

the only thing you can do from where you are is point him in the right direction as his only oither choice is to follow you
you didnt abondon him you left him secure
good luck

going2die_rich

If it was me, I'd want tough love. Only I could drag myself out of this and sort myself out, so I wouldn't want my mother putting herself through financial hardship or worrying about me.

It's up to your son to fix it, as he can't be carried all his life. He'll have to see what he'll get if he doesn't pull himself together and get a job. I think it's a case of tough love as you can't ruin your family life to bail him out. It's up to him now and you can only hope he see's and does what he needs to do to make things right.

cobbingstones

UPDATE

Thanks for all your replies. They are very very appreciated.

Anyway, at the 11th hour a friend of mine has agreed to let him stay.

This was a very tough call and I'm so pleased its finished.

Thank you for all your support

MM

Savvy_Sue

Glad to hear it, BUT I would still keep all the above in mind: your son may grow up quickly, but equally you may find yourself in a similar situation even before you get home. Maybe somewhere like a foyer with structure and goals would help him.