Anybody got any advice please for a single mum?

*zippy*

Lorraine as others have said i'm really sorry this has happened to you and it makes me so annoyed that when people are brave enough to post they get those sort of replies. But really hun it doesn't happen very often, put them on ignore and don't miss out on the advice and friendship this board offers.

MSE_ForumTeam1

Please remember, many people on this forum can feel vunerable and it is important to be supportive rather than judgemental. Can we please get back to helping the OP out with her debts?

Many Thanks

COOKIEWILLOW

Keep On Posting Sammy, Dont Be Put Off!! I Nearly Was Recently (wont Mention The Person) Its Embarassing Enough Airing Your Dirty Laundry So To Speak, Without Having A Row For It. I Had Great People Though Who "flew" In And Stuck Up For Me, (especially Pania--great Lady:T ). Worry Will Make Your Crohns Worse. Debt Has Made Me Have Ibs, And That Not As Bad As Crohns. Keep Chin Up!!:D

chunky79

Well i have just seen this post and well i am shocked!!!!

Sammy, i wouldn't go you stay stubborn! Why should you be pushed pout just because a select few like to hinder rather than help.

As you can see now you have majority support its inly a minority that like to pick at. Funnily enough the first thing advised to me was to sell everything on ebay that isn't nailed down!!! You go for it.

juliapenguin

Sammy - hi.

Please please make sure you tell the DSS what you get from your ex. When I was in your situation I got hauled before their fraud squad as they thought I hadn't told them the whole story - it all turned out to be their mistake (I had put my child support on the form but they'd missed it) but it was absolutely awful and terrifying. I too was suffering from major depression and anxiety and I can't imagine how much worse it could have got if they had found out I hadn't been telling the truth.

It won't be easy for you, but it's better than the alternative. You'll get loads of support here.

Julia xx

Robflh

Hi all

Some, if not all, of the abusive posts have now been removed by MSE ForumTeam1.

Unfortunately, I think it is, as they say, too little too late and sammy18 will never post here again. I doubt she is even reading these posts.

As far as I am concerned people that write abusive posts should not only have their posts removed from this forum but they too should be removed.

Destructive criticism is easy but constructive criticism requires compassion and a brain.

Ps. If anyone would genuinely like to help her, send her a private message.

margaretclare

Robflh wrote: »

Hi all

Some, if not all, of the abusive posts have now been removed by MSE ForumTeam1.

Unfortunately, I think it is, as they say, too little too late and sammy18 will never post here again. I doubt she is even reading these posts.

As far as I am concerned people that write abusive posts should not only have their posts removed from this forum but they too should be removed.

Destructive criticism is easy but constructive criticism requires compassion and a brain.

Ps. If anyone would genuinely like to help her, send her a private message.

It appears that they've removed my recent post too, and I would have said mine was far from abusive! So maybe MSE Team 1 have been a bit over-zealous?

As far as I remember, what I wrote was a factual statement about water charges, in response to someone who wrote that it was the same amount everywhere. It isn't. I also said that Crohn's disease wasn't something I'd wish on my worst enemy. I said that where I'd thought her grocery bills were a bit high for an adult and 2 children, perhaps they're not, given her illness.

I also wrote about a recent 'benefit fraud' case locally, a woman who 'didn't think she was doing anything wrong'. The Benefits Agency thought otherwise. I urged Sammy to take note of other posters who had written similarly, although I stressed that I was not having a 'pop' at her and that I have no need to have a pop at anybody, have nothing to prove any more.

So if that's what MSE Team 1 define as an abusive post and worthy of removal, perhaps it is I who should not waste time coming on here again, in spite of the numbers of times I have been thanked for my contribution!

Margaret

poppy10_2

There are ways round it sammy - rather than your ex paying you £300/month, perhaps he could take on one of your loans and pay that off - DSS wouldn't need to get involved then.

As people have posted, you can't just continue as you are - DSS could eventually catch up with you and it would be a nightmare to have to pay back all those benefits. It's not worth the risk.

Good luck!