Dealing with hurt.

gwinnie

Although I hadn't posted on this thread (yet!), it has been on my mind this week. Today I came across a quote that I think gets right to the heart of the matter:

"Hurts themselves do not cripple us. What cripples us is the way we've turned on ourselves and disowned how we feel about what happened to us."

I found it worth spending a little thought on. It might not even apply to you (rhetorical "you"), but it could well explain someone else's 'inexplicable' behaviours.

madison's_mum

I do remember seeing someone who I knew quite well in the pub who was a very informal dresser - wearing a really nice suit. I said jokingly "you look smart - have you been in court?" to which he replied "No, a funeral". I was mortified - it wasn't a close relative or friend but I was cringing all the same.

I went to pick my daughter up from nursery to take her to my dad's wake & i had got the staff to put her in a nice dress & i was wearing a smart outfit. When i got there one of the mum's says really happy & cheerful "ooh your both really smart are you going to a party?" She looked horrified when i said funeral!

I also used to get "give us a smile love" all the time when i was working in a pub. That used to pee me off, i used to think "yeah i might if i wasn't serving an obnoxious t**t like you!" (would have said if wouldn't have got the sack!)